"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Flying solo to a school dance?

PackDaddy

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Gentleman, tonight there's a dance on campus. It's rumored to be filled with freshmen and sophomores. Do I fly alone? Are my odds better if I go with a good group of friends? Wanna try it out, but also don't want it to blow up in my face. I don't think being the one guy circling the floor is a good image. Gives off the impression I don't have friends, which = low social value. Do I only go if my friends are?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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PackDaddy said:
I don't think being the one guy circling the floor is a good image. Gives off the impression I don't have friends, which = low social value.
I never once thought of that after i grinded and danced with more than 25 girls. Not to mention the ones who wanted to dance exclusively. But thats my experience.

I felt as if i was the life of the party and every time i left them, they died down and when i came back everyone sprang up again. Obviously everyone wont dance with you but that doesnt matter.

Think of it this way, are you gonna be the kid watching everyone dance and have fun with your friends or alone?
Theres no difference. Its only fun if you make it fun.
 
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