Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Fluctuations in state, social proof and females' interest

Chamber36

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I notice that I'm not on top of my game 100% of the time.

Sometimes I might just have a sh!tty night, only get crap from random girls and then a suddenly girl HB9 would IOI me anyway. Because I would be out of state, I'd repel most girls. But the HB9 didn't not care what all the HB7's and 8's who never spoke to me thought.

I don't really understand it though. Does anyone have an idea how come sometimes 90% of girls don't dig me and then a girl who's 10x hotter than them will actually IOI me a few times over?

I really don't know what to expect anymore sometimes.

BTW I can go out and have fun and get IOI's from everyone from 7's to 9's but when I'm out of state I seem to repel more 7's and 8's than I do 9's.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sometimes the 9's just happen to have better taste than the 7's and 8's. We can talk about "social proof" until the cows come home but there will be times when the hotter ones don't need the approval of the others. Apparently she saw something in your that she likes even if the others didn't.
 

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I guess it's all just a lesson in outcome independence.

Even if I keep in mind that it's a numbers game and that a certain percentage of women WILL be charmed by the same thing that repels other women, it's still mentally draining to play the numbers game and lose, and it will effect my mood.

I suppose feeling down and out really serves to help introspection. Helps to realign the principles. I guess I will just have to reserve more of my energy for myself instead of shooting every chance I get. In other words: put them women on ice.
 

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When you're in state you ooze a friendly confident vibe. This is makes it easier for girls with lower confidence to get comfortable around you. But a lot of hot girls will get comfortable whether you're in state or not because they are confident. Society is always nice to good looking girls so most good looking girls expect to be treated nicely most of the time and care less whether you're a friendly looking guy or not.
 

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Sometimes, that happes because the 9 wants some attention from you. Or she could really be interested in you. Who knows?

Make a move.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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