"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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fluctuating personality

ohiobohio518

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have you ever met a girl who has a ridiculously fluctuating personality? i wouldn't call it a mood swing, because she's not angry or anything.

one day she'd be all caring and nice and sounds like she genuinely wants to talk to me. id start to like her personality. then the next day she not only acts aloof, but seems pretentious, abrasive, distant and just annoying to talk to.

some of you may say that this is her trying to test me or whatever by varying the attention she gives me, but if that was the case, she'd just act aloof without displaying all the personality traits i mentioned above that would turn anyone off.

am i suppose to let this slide? i was falling for her good side, and then i see this other side of her and im shocked that someone that i thought i liked turned out to be this wicked b1tch that i want to strangle.

and see, tomorrow, she's probably gonna start displaying all the traits that i saw before that made me like her.

the only reason i didnt ask her out tonight was because i was so turned off by her behavior, and im kind of shocked that someone can keep that kind of personality undercover for so long (3 months?)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WRX_is_like_SEX

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Well, well well . . .

. . . So am I right that you have been after this girl for three months (and no luck) ??? . . .In any event the girl most likely enjoys doing what she's doing and above all getting attention from you IMO . .However - the solution is fairly simple depending on yr mindset ofcourse. . .

. . . . .One is to stop giving her attention and simply call it a day . . .See how she reacts . .Will she run back to you . .If not forget her . .

. . . . .Two - the more prejudicial approach is simply let her know you're not taking her cr*p, and simply petrify her in to submission . . .And I mean, not have a conversation as such - but simply take controll and give the order . . .:cuss:

Hope this is of help .
 

ohiobohio518

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WRX_is_like_SEX said:
So am I right that you have been after this girl for three months (and no luck) ???
actually no. i met her three months ago, wasn't interested in her then. then over the course of the last month or so, i started to have feelings for her.

One is to stop giving her attention and simply call it a day . . .See how she reacts . .Will she run back to you . .If not forget her . .
I will do this, because....

Two - the more prejudicial approach is simply let her know you're not taking her cr*p, and simply petrify her in to submission . . .And I mean, not have a conversation as such - but simply take controll and give the order
...she is not a type of person who would be "petrified into submission."

I'm just gonna give her one-word answers and stuff and see how she reacts:rock:
 

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Generally girls are crazier than guys are, don't try to figure them out. Cause the only thing most important to her and to yourself is your own strength & stability.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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