"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi,

My girlfriend arrives home tomorrow evening (she has been gone for two and a half months traveling in Europe) I am going to go meet her at the airport. I'm just sort of debating whether to get her flowers or not? we have been dating since the summer.

What are other people's opinion on this?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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yeh i'd get it. summer has been a while, it wont hurt, just dont do it often thats the thing.

i'd get her something other than, red. pink. or a rose. get her something else. something oxtic.. something "different"
 
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Don't meet her at the airport - unless you are driving her home -- she is not your wife -- you'll look to anxious!

Unless you already told her you'll be there!:rolleyes:
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Don't meet her at the airport - unless you are driving her home -- she is not your wife -- you'll look to anxious!

Unless you already told her you'll be there!:rolleyes:

Yes, I said I would meet her. I'm looking forward to seeing her anyway.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If you want to get her flowers, then get her flowers. It's all in the delivery anyways, if you can give flowers like a man then she'll love it, if you give them like a ***** she will think you are a *****. I'd do it.
 
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superchristx said:
pick some indigenous flowers, from the divider in the highway on the way to the airport.
hahaha :D - yes they must be indigenous!!
 

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not to hate on you man, but a lot of your posts make you sound like a woman hater. Theres nothing wrong with either bringing flowers for your gf who you haven't seen for months or collecting her from the airport! He's hardly talking about bombarding her with flowers every day!

Last Man Standing said:
Don't meet her at the airport - unless you are driving her home -- she is not your wife -- you'll look to anxious!

Unless you already told her you'll be there!:rolleyes:
 
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vorbis said:
not to hate on you man, but a lot of your posts make you sound like a woman hater. Theres nothing wrong with either bringing flowers for your gf who you haven't seen for months or collecting her from the airport! He's hardly talking about bombarding her with flowers every day!
The above post of mine that you quoted is far from being hateful - I don't see the hate :confused:

He seems to be anxious for a girl that he just recently met - it would have been better if he would have stated to her "Give me a call when you get in" -- there is nothing wrong with this!!

You should love women and hate hors!!!! This is proper thinking!!
 

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I just got to thinking when I woke up this morning...unexpected gift at an unexpected time *thank you, Sean Connery* :rockon:


Once she starts to go back to work in a week or so, I'll go there and give her flowers (it is unexpected).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Get here a really cute stuffed animal. She'll treasure it a lot more than flowers and its not a dead-plant. You can do flowers too but i think the stuffed animal will be a good one. Maybe a big teddy.
 

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That is a good suggestion, thanks.
 

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Ok things like this are examples of people just looking WAY too much into things.
There's no manual on how to be a man or not, if you have to consult a website about whether you should get your g/f flowers or not, something is not right....

If something like this crosses anyones mind, you are not being yourself, you are still being controlled by women. Sure you aren't sucking up to them but you are still controlled by women, now it's out of fear... fear of not being "DJ" enough and losing a WOMAN. You are still controlled by women.

Do you want to go see her and get her flowers?? Then do it! The problems in life come from doing things you DON'T truly want to do just to win someone over/impress them etc.
It's only human to miss a friend/g/f whatever when they are gone for a while.
 

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NewDestiny47 said:
Ok things like this are examples of people just looking WAY too much into things.
There's no manual on how to be a man or not, if you have to consult a website about whether you should get your g/f flowers or not, something is not right....

If something like this crosses anyones mind, you are not being yourself, you are still being controlled by women. Sure you aren't sucking up to them but you are still controlled by women, now it's out of fear... fear of not being "DJ" enough and losing a WOMAN. You are still controlled by women.

Do you want to go see her and get her flowers?? Then do it! The problems in life come from doing things you DON'T truly want to do just to win someone over/impress them etc.
It's only human to miss a friend/g/f whatever when they are gone for a while.

This goes back to my other logic of thinking, if I want to do it, then I'll do it. If I don't want to do it, then I won't. Basically just do what you feel like, don't need to ask what you should do.
 
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