bradd80 said:
"but even the older guys are like that, even though they've been divorced and should know better!"
That is what really blows my mind! How can a man who has been married and then practically raped, tarred, feathered, and dragged through the coals in divorce court be so stupid as to marry again? And not even once, sometimes you hear about guys who are wealthy and have married 3 or 4 times.
At some point, you just have to say, okay, you make the mistake once, you get my sympathy. MAYBE.....and that's a big maybe, but MAYBE you get my sympathy if you made the mistake a second time. Maybe there were a lot of wonderful things about this woman and in many ways she was better than the first. That is still stretching it big time.
But THREE times? Four? Five? What are you, an idiot? At that point you get ZERO sympathy from me. I think the men here that understand the reality understand this. There are beautiful things and ugly things we have to deal with when it comes to the world around us. I think all of us here would really like for the ideal to be the way things are.
It would be nice if every woman was sweet and kind and submissive and appreciative. If every woman was as genuinely sweet and nice as she likes to appear to be. And if all women were not just sweet, but loyal and great in bed and if all women genuinely cared about you.
This is the reality. There are some good women out there and there are some barracudas. There are a lot of bad apples out there. There are a lot of women that will abuse your kindness and take advantage of you IF YOU LET THEM. We have legitimate reasons to discuss the good and the bad. And when we do, we learn from each other. And when we discuss the bad, it's a reminder to ourselves that we have to protect ourselves. And it also serves as a warning to other men out there to BE CAREFUL.
Enjoy your life and enjoy the women that you bring into your life but BE CAREFUL. Protect yourself. Look for the positive signs of a quality woman and also look out for the warning signs so you can protect yourself from the ones who would take advantage of you. Keep your standards high and be willing to walk away at a moment's notice if a woman displays too many warning signs. And be very careful to either avoid marriage or to not just double, but triple and quadruple-check your women.
Be RELENTLESS AND PATIENT with your subtle tests and observations. Enjoy her completely but never completely fall asleep and continually notice what her behaviors and words say about her as a person. What does she communicate indirectly? What do her actions communicate? What hidden communication can you gain by carefully listening to her words?
And what do I mean by hidden communication? I'll give you a quick example. An ex of mine said this about me when we first got together... "I want you and I always get what I want.". Sounds flattering, right? WRONG! She unintentionally subcommunicated her attitude about life. That she thinks she should always get what she wants. I eventually dropped her but clearly missed this warning sign. Just a few words can tell you a lot if you pay attention to the hidden communication.