"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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happyman2012

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2 question I thought I'd throw out there!

Should you still flirt with your girlfriend like you did in the begining if your in a LTR together?!

Should you be/can you be the man you were at the begining throughout the LTR?!

With my LTR girlfriend I keep things fun, tease, compliment SOMETIMES if I mean it, slap her ass, touch her still, good eye contact e.t.c. I still flirt.

I decided to wirte this post because I was just looking through the IM's/chat log messages from me and my girlfriend when we first started talking, and I was very flirty!

I am ****y and funny naturally but I definetly used more sex inuendos and hinted at layin her more than I do now.

Something I should maybe get back to?


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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happyman2012 said:
2 question I thought I'd throw out there!

Should you still flirt with your girlfriend like you did in the begining if your in a LTR together?!

Should you be/can you be the man you were at the begining throughout the LTR?!
Yes and yes. Being pretty much the same person throughout an LTR worked for me. I'm naturally C&F myself, sometimes I push it too far so dropping a bit of AFC game when rapport is wearing thin then back to my stoic self is a pretty good modus operandi.
In a nutshell, you sparingly show her that you care but you're not whipped and have options.
 

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In the same boat. At the beginning all my funny one liners and badass wit were solid gold but they're stale now.
If she'd throw me a shyt test, I'd have myriad witty responses to rock her on her heels and drive her interest to fever pitch.
But the old lines and auto responses become lame and don't have the same effect. Hence, I feel she's losing respect for me because I can't keep coming up with new material all the time.
When I do, she laps it up and goes back to get old self.

A guy once warned me not to be funny with a woman all the time because that will be the default setting she will expect. In other words, once you run out of material and stop being funny, she loses attraction and pines for that ****y funny guy she fell for.
Lesson learned.
 
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