"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Flirtatious hottie bank teller

Teej

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I went to the bank recently and the sexy bank teller was being very cute with me. It took me aback and I wasn't smooth at all. Actually the conversation was pretty standard but her mannerisms were the most flirtatious I've ever seen. Everything she said was accompanied by a huge smile and lots of flirty eye contact. I handed her my check and she noticed my name (I have a very uncommon name) and she asked me immediately "What's your name?," and she's like "Wow that's really neat!" Then after depositing the check and getting me to sign the receipt, asking me if I need any cash back, anything else, etc., she tells me "Have a great night" and I'm like "You too..." to which she goes "Oh THANK YOU!" *flutters eyelids.* LOL, she didn't actually flutter her eyelids but it was ridiculous. On top of being taken aback there were other tellers with no customers who could obviously see/hear us so I felt really uncomfortable flirting back with her.
I was wondering what I should do next time I see her, keeping in mind that it's not a private situation and it's pretty likely that the other tellers and/or customers are going to hear it. Maybe when she asks if I need anything else I could say "Yeah, write your number down for me." or something suave like that, but I wouldn't like to get blown out in front of everyone present. Any ideas?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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619joe

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just take the pen that is usually attached to the counter,get a piece of paper and just tap the pen on the paper.she should get the idea...

except dont go like tomorow or something.go next time its convienient for you and when you actually HAVE to go...
 

Aragon034

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Hmm, i'd just ask straight out. Not for her number, but that i'm going to the coffee shop next door and she should come over on her break so we can shoot the **** some more.

In fact i did do that once, she wasn't a "hottie" but she was blatantly cute and flirty, she also quite literally opened up her shirt to show me some very nice cleavage, (she was slick about it too :p)

Don't be too afraid of the public. What? are they going to hold it against you? is the next time you go in there they're gonna say "haha you tried to ask her out and failed!" ?

Hell, if someone says something like that to me i just tell them, "Yeah, now i don't have to worry about wasting my time on her."

The only real fear i'd say is Security shoving a tazer up my ass :|
 

daygameguy

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Aragon034 said:
The only real fear i'd say is Security shoving a tazer up my ass :|
:D

I agree. It's not a big deal. Picking up a girl with comfort and style is a very classy thing to do. Don't care about who's looking at you, unless you feel he is the bf or something. So be aware, but do not care too much about losers watching you.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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not to be negative... but that's good customer service on her part.

don't look too much into it... you just seem like you're one of those people who find every reason to find someone giving indications of interest in you (like me).

i stop by my mom's bank (credit union actually) frequently... she's the branch manager there... and she always tells her tellers to be extra nice.

what the dialogue seemed to be was VERY typical... nothing that i would look into as interest.

change up the scenario:

you went to a gas station to buy cigarettes and a short fat cashier checked your items out for you... she was nice, courteous, and typical. you exchanged your small chit chat to pass up time.

her: ID?
you: here you go
her: <intrigued> what's your name?
you: (Some exotic name)
her: wow that's really neat!
you: thanks...
her: well have a great day
you: thanks you too...
her: thank you!

now, was she interested?

back to your situation...

one, she didn't ask anything about you (so, do you go to school/work around here?)

two, she went from "wow that's neat!" to "did you want this into checkings or savings" to "have a great night".

three, she fluttered her eyelids but didn't in actuality. it's an imaginary thing you made up to reinforce the idea that she was interested in you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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u take a withdrawal slip,
write a question saying "whats your status"
"A) single"
"B) taken"
"C) swinger"

hand it over, and she will circle one of the correct answer then she will hand it back to you. This way, its smooth and it won't be as embarrasing and FUN at the same time =)
 

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dude, you are reading into this whole situation way too much. She's a cute girl just trying to be nice. You probably need to work on your confidence if talking to a bank teller is your idea of a girl flirting with you. It took you aback because you weren't expecting such a happy alive bank teller. It would take me back too. But I wouldn't appraise the situation as her having flirted with me.
 

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this is a "desperate" mindset he has. If you think "everyone" likes your for just simple things like that, that means U my friend are that desperate. Seriouisly lol.. no offense
 

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Nah, I'm good at telling when chicks are interested. I've been right every time, even when I was doubting it. I probably err on the conservative side actually. I've seen good customer service many times and it doesn't include the sort of vibe she was putting out. It's not just about the actual conversation, it's also about tone, body language, and eye contact. Put it this way: even if you consider the chicks I've had sex with/had as GFs, not one of them gave me a vibe quite that strong upon first contact. You weren't there so you're only speculating; anyway that's not what I was asking, I was just asking how to approach it. Thanks for the concern though...
 

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verysuave said:
u take a withdrawal slip,
write a question saying "whats your status"
"A) single"
"B) taken"
"C) swinger"

hand it over, and she will circle one of the correct answer then she will hand it back to you. This way, its smooth and it won't be as embarrasing and FUN at the same time =)
HAHA, I like that... :cool: However, I can totally see myself ****ting my pants when I hand that to her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Teej said:
Nah, I'm good at telling when chicks are interested. I've been right every time, even when I was doubting it. I probably err on the conservative side actually. I've seen good customer service many times and it doesn't include the sort of vibe she was putting out. It's not just about the actual conversation, it's also about tone, body language, and eye contact. Put it this way: even if you consider the chicks I've had sex with/had as GFs, not one of them gave me a vibe quite that strong upon first contact. You weren't there so you're only speculating; anyway that's not what I was asking, I was just asking how to approach it. Thanks for the concern though...
yo man, see, u good at telling chicks are interested? can you give an example? like.. at your work, or chicks u run into at a club, or on the street? do u run any tests to see? or do you just read body language?
 
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