"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cerwin Vega

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I can't seem to understand it, why do some women naturally attract all the men around them, even if they are far from a 10?

My ex is a curvy brunette with green eyes, looks good, but from what from few people from SS I showed a picture of her to said she's about a 6.5-7.5

She had LOTS of male "fans"/orbiters who used to hit on her all the time; I know that girls get hit on a lot (some even 50 times a day), I can't help but wonder what attracts these males to hit on her? Let's say doesn't eyeball anyone or talk to them, the men are the ones to initiate.

It seems like she's transmitting a vibe that she's single/needs some guy to save her, I really don't know how to explain it.

TL;DR:
Some girls get tons of male attention while in an LTR even if they are not that pretty, why?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Cerwin Vega

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^ Exactly, towards the end of the relationship she frequently used to mention the attention that men were giving her:
"All the men in the gym were watching me work out today, it was so embarrassing"
"This guy keeps looking at me all the time and smiling"

But I mean, what the heck is the problem to behave like a normal girl and just block the other guys? I never showed any interest in the matter or jealousy but it just seems disrespectful, when I talk to a girl who has a boyfriend and isn't interested I can feel how she's subconsciously telling me to back off.
 

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CerwinVegaFan said:
I can't seem to understand it, why do some women naturally attract all the men around them, even if they are far from a 10?
Because some girls, while they are not a 10 in looks....just have something crazy crazy sexy about them that makes them super hot while being only a 7. You know those girls you meet that you are WILDLY attracted to even though they aren't God-tier in terms of looks? Call it a "vibe" or "energy" or "personality" or whatever, but attractiveness goes far beyond mere looks.

Either that or they give off the "I-know-how-to-take-a-d!ck" vibe.
 

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Contrary to popular belief, it isn't the 10s that get the most attention (approached). Most men won't bother because they know it's a lost cause.

Anything around average or slightly above gets a ton of attention because more men have a shot at them.
 

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Hang out with a 1 and you won't have that problem HAHAHA

Guys want pvssy and anything above a 6 they will go after. Chicks in the 6-7 range are common for guys to go after since there are a lot of them. Chicks 8 and above are harder for the other guys to obtain. Lots of guys feel intimidated by the better looking women.

It's an ego stroke for women to have a bunch of guys showing them attention and hitting on them. If the guys that are flirting with her are better looking than the boyfriend, she will lap up all that attention. She will see that she can do better than what she has, if she decides to upgrade she will.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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CerwinVegaFan said:
My ex is a curvy brunette with green eyes, looks good, but from what from few people from SS I showed a picture of her to said she's about a 6.5-7.5
You say she is curvy. Girls with big boobs tend to get a lot of attention from men, and from a young age. Like gravityeyelids says, some girls just have something sexy about them, they have a sexy vibe, even if technically they aren't that good looking. Having large sexual characteristics, like boobs, round butt, and hips (not fat) can trigger that kind of response in men.
 

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You guys got a point about it, but what I mean is a girl who sends signals she's available while she's not, and she usually gets to the "I have a boyfriend" part way too long into the conversation, AND she continues talking to the guy.

I know that it's an attention seeking wh0re but how do you treat such a girl?

When we were dating and she would tell me about a guy hitting on her I used to tell her "look, you're a bomb! If I'd have to fight each and every man who wants to hit on you in this world, there would be no men left" and "It's so flattering that my girl is so hot that every guy wants her" but at some point hearing about her "hit on me" stories gets really old and annoying.
 

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CerwinVegaFan said:
I know that it's an attention seeking wh0re but how do you treat such a girl?
Not very seriously. Fvck her and use her for a good time. Have other options ready.
 

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CerwinVegaFan said:
I know that it's an attention seeking wh0re but how do you treat such a girl?
Replace her?

CerwinVegaFan said:
When we were dating and she would tell me about a guy hitting on her I used to tell her "look, you're a bomb! If I'd have to fight each and every man who wants to hit on you in this world, there would be no men left" and "It's so flattering that my girl is so hot that every guy wants her" but at some point hearing about her "hit on me" stories gets really old and annoying.
I'd get tired of hearing that too. But it sounds like that's who she is. Is that what you really want?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What about telling her about women that were hitting on you (even if it's not true)?

There's alot to be said about dread game, highlighting your desirabilty to keep her in line. Now granted if you're unattractive it's not going to work well because it's not plausible that women are actually hitting on you. But if you're reasonably good looking I think it can work wonders.

Think about her motiviation. She's actually trying a little dread game herself. She's putting you on notice by mentioning all the attention that she gets on a daily basis. Two can play that game!
 

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Words are nothing, actions are everything
Let her see me in my A game will work wonders
 
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