"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Flew in out of state, slept together, offer her flight money?

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Ohso-Phresh said:
Moving to where she is even though it would work for you is generally a bad move. Better to have her move for you or move to a third place where it’s a fresh start for the both of you.

Mostly because she will have her social circle and will have higher status by default.
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Good points, I did consider starting over together someplace so that we are both giving something up and bonding more together in a new place, us against the world kind of thing, but didn't think of her social circles. Her business can technically be run remotely, she works from home she said. I don't want to live in my state anymore and have actively been traveling the country looking for a new place to call home. So my state is out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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jnMissouri said:
Good points, I did consider starting over together someplace so that we are both giving something up and bonding more together in a new place, us against the world kind of thing, but didn't think of her social circles. Her business can technically be run remotely, she works from home she said. I don't want to live in my state anymore and have actively been traveling the country looking for a new place to call home. So my state is out.
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With flights so cheap, you could do a lot of adventure travel with her to scout. Darts on a dartboard kinda thing. Airports and planes are pretty empty rn.
 
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jnMissouri said:
She sees me at my place. My live in moved out months ago after I finally broke things off. I did buy our meals.
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You know what happens when you give money to a woman you are dating/fvcking/ interested........ Her ego goes thru the roof up high all the way to Mars..... It also makes her believe you love or lost your head for her, and she feels like you are buying her and she is a hoe......... Don't ever give money Mr.nice guy cause you will be done.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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