flaky?

[Jeremymichael]

There is a girl who I met in the bar last night, there was live music. I have been talking with her off and on when she used to work there. Anyway last night she came up to me we started talking and I mentioned where I work. She asked me whether I could give her a lift into work as she works up the road from me. My mate said she like you etc.. I said I could pick her up on the way in if she meets me a 8-15 am, she said yes and we agreed a place.
We swapped numbers and I she said she would definitely meet me

Anyway at 8.15 am this morning, whilst I waited at the agreed place she called me and said " hello what time where we meant to meet?". I said 8-15 (unfortunately the line kept breaking up, due to poor cell phone signal) and I asked whether she still wanted a lift. I call back twice because I couldn't hear her to well. She said that she would not make it as she had over slept, I just said okay I'll see you again in the pub sometime and that was that.

What do you think I should make of that?, at least she called me, but I felt a bit disappointed she did not make it to meet me.

 

[Metro3pilot]

sounds like she overslept ...and like you said, at least she called ... it does happen .....

dude, try not to overthink it ...... no offense but sounds like you're putting quite a few eggs in this basket already .....

personally I would wait for her to call you or just wait till you see her in the pub again ....

:woo:

 

[Jeremymichael]

well she texted me and appologized and asked for a lift this morning and she was there. It was a bit sterile really, both of us chatting but it was low key.
She just left and said probably see you in the week in the pub.

Flat really- but then I'm probably not bothered, I'm probably just a taxi driver for her

 

[Jeremymichael]

Hi Guys,

do you think its dying a death this one?.

I sent her another text just saying if she needs another lift to work it would be no problem.

She sent a reply saying "might take you up on this sometime xxx"

anyway she sent me a text the next day saying "if you leave work at 5pm, anychance of a lift home x". Anyway I picked her up and took her home.

In the evening she saw me in the pub and came upto me and put her arm around me an went for a kiss, I though she might be going for the lips, but I just kissed her on the cheek".

Later in the evening she said I want to buy you a drink, are you staing around I said yes. She said she would be back later. Anyway she never turned
up and I have heard no more. I know I will see her again, but do you think this worth a go, or this a non event with me wishful thinking?

 

[Monkey]

Be careful here, sounds like she might just be happy to use you.

Just ask her on a date next time you see her and see how she reacts, because if she does like you, shes waiting for you to ask her out ASAP.

 

[Frenchconnection]

I say just go for it, what else you got to loose! All this chauffering her around needs a favor in return.

 

[Jeremymichael]

yes I'm not sure what to think. If I ask her out it could be embarassing "oh I thought we were just mates", and everyone learns of thison the other hand if she asks again will I look rude if I don't accept and she might ignore me. Her texts start with "hi mate.....".but end with x or xx

If I'm honest I think it maybe good if it just fades away. I can see myself getting oneitus.. oh the other major warning signs is she is bisexual. She is damm gorgeous though and any female attention feels good!

 

[Frenchconnection]

I don't blame you mate but I guess sometimes you just have to go with your gut instinct.

I would think that too much hesitation and "ass kissing" will only get you to the dreaded "Friend Zone".

Maybe try to test the waters and be more flirtatious and don't be so available to give her a ride!

Bonne Chance mon ami!

 

[Jeremymichael]

thanks French, sounds like good advise. I'm going to let her contact me first. If she does I might send a flirt text message some thing like " I could give you a lift but people are beginning to talk.. should we be doing this" and see how she reacts.

All the best Jez

 

[Jeremymichael]

well it had been a week and no contact. I was in the bar last night and saw one of her friends who said, have you heard about xxx she had a bad car accident the car is kanckered but luckily she was walked away un-touched. Hearing this I sent her a text saying I hope she was okay, and got one back thanking me and that she was okay.


fast forward two hours and this is were I screwed up...DAMM. After having a few drinks I sent her two message one saying keep smiling, the other saying if she needed any morale support I would be happy to meet for a drink. I have heard nothing.... I feel really embarassed this morning. Have I really screwed up?

 

[Phyzzle]

I sent her two message one saying keep smiling, the other saying if she needed any morale support I would be happy to meet for a drink. I have heard nothing.... I feel really embarassed this morning. Have I really screwed up?

No, you asked her out, and apparently got turned down. Nothing embarrassing about that.

That last message in your outbox? So you're sure you sent it?

If I ask her out it could be embarassing "oh I thought we were just mates", and everyone learns of this

LOL, that's not gonna happen.

 

[Jeremymichael]

I have deleted her numbers from my phone, so no more of that drunken behaviour from me thank you

 

[Vixen]

Just ask her out... if you can get her number again. Best case, she accepts and all this second-guessing is instantly solved. Worst case, she turns you down (and trust me, we girls don't go running to our friends giggling over every guy we turn down) and you can move on and find the next girl. What you don't want is to be stuck in limbo like this, possibly getting used by her.

 

[Jeremymichael]

just when I was feeling down in the dumps she send me a text

"thanks mate, might take you up on that drink sometime, hope you are cool,
and will defo meet up soon x"

all not lost- and thank god it wasn't that embarrasing!

 

[Jeremymichael]

more disapointment. got a text last night "are you coming down to the pub tonight mate?, any chance of lift tomorrow xxxx?".

I ent a text back saying "Stayingin tonight, can give lift at 8-15am? have fun"

she texted back "sweet as a nut!, cu tomorrow xxxx"

anyway no show this morning and no call, what do you think?

 

[Monkey]

Stop pissing about and ask her out - thats what I think.

But be prepared for her to say lets just be friends...

 

[Jeremymichael]

feel down today, went to the bar last night she was there. she came over and said sorry she got drunk and slept in- great!.I just kind of ignored her

 

[backbreaker]

dude just pull your cvck out and see what happens... I mean it's what you want anyway and it can't get any worse than her using you like she is now? she might mess around and save you time and money, as well as stress.

 

[Cremasta]

You're saying your conversations in the car in the morning are a bit flat?

Flirting and putting in a few somewhat subtle hints could help you out here. Something like "I seem to be doing all the driving, when are you going to take me somewhere?" or "I like having you here in the morning... starts my day off nicely... WHEN you turn up."

Corny, I know, but it's all in the delivery... and what have you got to lose?

 

[Jeremymichael]

I don't why she didn't text me or call me to say she wouldn't turn up, or not bothered texting the previous night. I never would have put her down as rude, but maybe she just is. I could never imagine myself doing that