I'm having a real dilemma concerning a friend of mine that i'd really like to start dating. I'm a sophomore in college, and i met her freshman year when I was seeing one of her good friends. We ended up having some classes together second semester, lived in the same building and got pretty close. Casual flirting, studying together, stuff like that...she even invited me out to a beach house with her and two of her girl friends at the before she moved back home for the summer, but we didn't hook up or anything......I kind of get the feeling that she's really outgoing by nature, but is a little bit shy when she's around me. I've always kind of played it cool, not really going after her too agressively.
Anyways, this semester it seems like things have heated up a little bit....I went to her birthday party awhile ago, she got insanely drunk, and was all over me for most of it. I ended up having to take care of her, and physically carried her to her apartment. i have a conscience, so i didn't try to hook up with her then because she was simply smashed.
A few weeks ago she calls me up out of the blue, and wanted to go with me to see this political speaker in the quad.....things went along pretty well, and she mentioned she really wanted to see a certain movie. I took the hint, and asked her out after the rally. She agreed, and seemed excited, telling me to call her that weekend. I was really busy and didn't get around to calling her till Saturday night (too short notice?), to arrange it for Sunday, but she called me back Sunday morning because one of her girlfriends is trying to become a singer and was performing at a club on the Sunset strip. i told her it wasn't a big deal, and for her to call me later in the week. So she ended up IMing me that Friday, asking me if I had seen the movie yet, and told me to call her again that Sunday. I actually ended up running into her at a party, and think i did a good job of raising her interest level. I basically ignored her, other than saying hi and making a little small talk, and talked a lot with a pretty hot female neighbor of mine in plain sight of her for a lot of the party. I did make sure to say goodbye to her, mentioning I was walking my neighbor home, and she once again told me to call her. So i called her that Sunday morning, got her answering machine, and let her know i'd like to go to the movie again. she called me back later, saying she had a ton of work to do, and might not finish it in time to keep our date....she called me again later that night, and i just let my answering machine pick it up.
Normally, i'd just next a girl that does this to me, but we've got such a history that i'm still really attracted. Her message pretty much consisted of her apologizing a lot, asking if she could have a rain check, telling me that she "owes me one, big time" and would call me later in the week. Anyways, she didn't call (probably because it was halloween weekend and she knew i was out partying), and i didn't call her either. Anyways, I ran into her yesterday on my way home from class, and the first thing she said to me was how much she owed me one.....i acted like it was no big deal, and she told me she wasn't doing to well in her classes, and had been studying pretty much for the last two weeks (she studied and didn't even go out halloween weekend). we talked for a bit, and as i left she told me to call her. i told her likewise.
Now should I give her another chance, and call to set another date, or should i take this as a sign she's not interested (she seems interested to me)? Or should I not call her at all, and next her if she doesn't call back? What's your guys' take on this situation?
Anyways, this semester it seems like things have heated up a little bit....I went to her birthday party awhile ago, she got insanely drunk, and was all over me for most of it. I ended up having to take care of her, and physically carried her to her apartment. i have a conscience, so i didn't try to hook up with her then because she was simply smashed.
A few weeks ago she calls me up out of the blue, and wanted to go with me to see this political speaker in the quad.....things went along pretty well, and she mentioned she really wanted to see a certain movie. I took the hint, and asked her out after the rally. She agreed, and seemed excited, telling me to call her that weekend. I was really busy and didn't get around to calling her till Saturday night (too short notice?), to arrange it for Sunday, but she called me back Sunday morning because one of her girlfriends is trying to become a singer and was performing at a club on the Sunset strip. i told her it wasn't a big deal, and for her to call me later in the week. So she ended up IMing me that Friday, asking me if I had seen the movie yet, and told me to call her again that Sunday. I actually ended up running into her at a party, and think i did a good job of raising her interest level. I basically ignored her, other than saying hi and making a little small talk, and talked a lot with a pretty hot female neighbor of mine in plain sight of her for a lot of the party. I did make sure to say goodbye to her, mentioning I was walking my neighbor home, and she once again told me to call her. So i called her that Sunday morning, got her answering machine, and let her know i'd like to go to the movie again. she called me back later, saying she had a ton of work to do, and might not finish it in time to keep our date....she called me again later that night, and i just let my answering machine pick it up.
Normally, i'd just next a girl that does this to me, but we've got such a history that i'm still really attracted. Her message pretty much consisted of her apologizing a lot, asking if she could have a rain check, telling me that she "owes me one, big time" and would call me later in the week. Anyways, she didn't call (probably because it was halloween weekend and she knew i was out partying), and i didn't call her either. Anyways, I ran into her yesterday on my way home from class, and the first thing she said to me was how much she owed me one.....i acted like it was no big deal, and she told me she wasn't doing to well in her classes, and had been studying pretty much for the last two weeks (she studied and didn't even go out halloween weekend). we talked for a bit, and as i left she told me to call her. i told her likewise.
Now should I give her another chance, and call to set another date, or should i take this as a sign she's not interested (she seems interested to me)? Or should I not call her at all, and next her if she doesn't call back? What's your guys' take on this situation?
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