Flaking out

[Wiesman44]

Well, i got this girls number on Monday, and i talked to her on the phone a bit (under 10 mins) on Wednesday, and i ended asking her to join me to lunch at one of our college dininng halls on Friday, but she said it wouldn't work and recommended Monday, and gave times. So I just IMed her on AIM today (yah bady idea I know) b/c she was online and i was too lazy to get my phone. She ended up saying 'i dont know if i have a meeting Monday but i'll let you know tomorrow'.

Now I know this is a prime example of a chick 'flaking out' but she did express some interest and she even gave an alternate date to meet. Is there any way to avoid this flaking ? Or is it a chick you just have to next ? Any ideas would be appreciated.

 

[Cheiradawg]

The ball is in her count now. Don't contact her again and if she does not call you and set up a specific time tomarrow like she said she would then next her.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Personally..I'd give her a 'soft' next.

She may have a valid reason for wanting to change the date. She may have a meeting with your college tuition advisor which would force her to change the schedule of your date. In that senerio, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

You have to gauge her IL. Does she seem sencere? Does she seem like she wants to make it up to you? Is she going out of HER way to make it up to you?

If her IL is high enough, then you have to excuse her on this one and let her make it up to you. Just dont go around around living your life according to her schedule.

If her IL in you is high, she'll go out of her way to make it up to you. You dont want to lower any interest level by being needy.
You have to reverse this situation because SHE is now the challenge. In her mind, she has the ball in her court and can dictate the date, when, how, ect.

IMO - Dont call her back. Dont IM her. Have her call you and set up the next date. Calling her back, and asking her if this day works..or that day works..makes you look needy and shows her that you really dont have a life. You'll open yourself up as a guy who will do anything for her...even kiss her ass.

Instead, go out...find other chics..give her the 'soft' next. Have her call you back and set up the date. If she says she's available on Friday rather than Monday...tell her you'll get back to her, then hang up. Put HER in the position to wait.

If you agree on the Friday date, then, go out..have fun..do your thing.

If she flakes again...even if its a vaild reason...

NEXT the BIACH!

 

[DJ_Dork]

seems like she has low-mid interest in you, even if you act afc like IMing about the lunch on following monday a girl that is really interested in talking with you will make time.

other guys in here say don't call and let her do the calling. good advice.

i like the "soft next" too. but it is really a next heh.