Something that has been happening a lot to me recently is the following:
Meet a girl, get her number no problems, set up a date with little difficulty. Date goes well: I make the girl laugh, conversation flows smoothly, I kino and meet little resistance and the girl kinos back, sometimes even manage to kiss the girl and get her enthusiastically kissing me back.
Date ends, I wait a day or two and invite her on a second date and the flakiness starts.
Usually I arrange by text as it is difficult to get in touch with people by mobile in a busy city like london.
My first text goes along the lines of "Hey, how do you fancy drinks tomorrow night"
They reply something like: "That sounds nice"
I text back "Cool ill meet you *location* around 8"
And either they ignore the second text or say that should be ok but ill text tomorrow to confirm.
I never hear from them and if i try texting the next day they ignore those texts until it is too late to meet up when they usually reply saying "sorry i can't make it after all tonight".
Then I have to make the decision whether to contact them again and have the same happen or just bin the number.
I do not really know where things are going wrong.
I can sense the attraction is there on the date, but they still act flaky. It is as though a first date is no big deal for them, but the moment I show my interest by suggesting a second date they start getting cold feet.
I've had a few chats with friends who also are into seduction and they have the following theories:
a) I'm escalating too fast so while the girls feel attraction, they are not comfortable so im scaring them off
b) the girls are faking their interest level/I'm overestimating their interest levels....if their interest level was sky high they wouldn't behave like this
c) some girls are just flaky and i just need to next them and hope the next girl is less flaky
Anyway would be great if people could give me some input so I can figure out what im doing wrong.
Meet a girl, get her number no problems, set up a date with little difficulty. Date goes well: I make the girl laugh, conversation flows smoothly, I kino and meet little resistance and the girl kinos back, sometimes even manage to kiss the girl and get her enthusiastically kissing me back.
Date ends, I wait a day or two and invite her on a second date and the flakiness starts.
Usually I arrange by text as it is difficult to get in touch with people by mobile in a busy city like london.
My first text goes along the lines of "Hey, how do you fancy drinks tomorrow night"
They reply something like: "That sounds nice"
I text back "Cool ill meet you *location* around 8"
And either they ignore the second text or say that should be ok but ill text tomorrow to confirm.
I never hear from them and if i try texting the next day they ignore those texts until it is too late to meet up when they usually reply saying "sorry i can't make it after all tonight".
Then I have to make the decision whether to contact them again and have the same happen or just bin the number.
I do not really know where things are going wrong.
I can sense the attraction is there on the date, but they still act flaky. It is as though a first date is no big deal for them, but the moment I show my interest by suggesting a second date they start getting cold feet.
I've had a few chats with friends who also are into seduction and they have the following theories:
a) I'm escalating too fast so while the girls feel attraction, they are not comfortable so im scaring them off
b) the girls are faking their interest level/I'm overestimating their interest levels....if their interest level was sky high they wouldn't behave like this
c) some girls are just flaky and i just need to next them and hope the next girl is less flaky
Anyway would be great if people could give me some input so I can figure out what im doing wrong.
