"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Flakey Chick Situation

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Met young girl at coffee shop. She's 19. We've had good kino, laughing, etc. She says she's about to break up with boyfriend. I said we should celebrate her being done with exams and we made plans to do that this Friday. But they were vague.

I figured she'd flake out. Today I call.

Me (about 2 today): "It's time to go out. Want to get drink tonight? Or dinner?"

Her: "Not sure, let me call you later this evening. Not sure what's going on."

Me: "I'll tell you what. Let's not do this. I'm going to call someone else and make plans. I like to have my Friday night set up with some plans."

Her: "You're mad. I feel bad about this. I can tell you're mad on the other end of the phone."

Me: "I'm not mad. I'm fine. I'll holler at you later."

My thought was I'm not going to play this young-chick flaky bull****. I'm not going to beg. I'm not going to get mad like she owes me anything. My prediction is this increases interest level. We'll see.

Thoughts? Feedback?

PS I'm calling other friend Lorrie tonight who is hot and I think I can really have fun with.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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NIce. I like it. :up:

Game over. You lose. Next. ...RIGHT TO HER!

Well done.

Except, oops on you, she's not old enough to drink: you didn't adjust the canned line to the crowd. If she catches on to that, you're toast, playa.

An alternate response to the "not sure what's going on" is "What's going on is you and I are going out, no need to call anyone, unless you need to cancel plans."
 
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There are bars we could go to, though I hadn't really thought of that until just now. I appreciate the reinforcement. That was basically my attitude: "I see. You failed my test. NEXT."

Of course, I'll let her make it up to me, but that will involve doing something out of Throat Jobs 14 or something. Seriously, once a flake, always a flake in my experience. I'm sure she is used to running all over AFCs, as she is pretty hot. She's foreign actually, and I thought I'd get less of this, but she is also young and around college kids all the time.

Oh well. Lorrie is 34, divorced, and hot.
 

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It's nice to follow a flake/strike-out with a sure thing - gets the nasty taste out of your mouth.

Have fun.
:cheer:
 

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Wow...19 and 31! Hit that young thing my friend!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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snorida44x said:
I always find that before you set up any date, tell a girl right from the beginning how flakiness is unacceptable and how you don't tolerate it. I tell her if there's one thing that could end our freindship fast..it's flakiness. Tell her that you are always where you say your going to be and are not late. This will have a great influence on her not to flake out.
You know... thats probably not a bad idea. I could see that working...then if you have a great time on the date she naturally wont want to flake.
 
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