flaked by 3 women/day

[moneyisking]

damn, asked 3 girls in order if they wanted to play soccer (which they said they would LOVE to because they play for indoor soccer team at their work) and got flaked by all 3 in one day. I don't know why, but usually the girls I meet at work, class, etc, we have good convo, laugh at my jokes, have good interactions, and whenever I ask to go somewhere with me, they all flake. I try not to bring race issues, but I am a typical Asian male, not one of the superb model looking ones. I workout and have nice body but 5'6" stature. I don't know why I am just not having any success!? Any ideas?

 

[BeDJ]

Ask them out for drinks instead. Women will flake, just ignore them unless they reschedule or counter offer later. Weed out the low interest women from the high interest ones.

 

[moneyisking]

@beginningdj: I have done that for past 4 years. i asked them for drinks, movies, minigolf, gym, etc etc, and i think i had 2 or 3 that showed up in that 4 year time period. I fully understand the 2 strikes rule and that we must observe her actions not what she says, since we men take others' words as a form of their self-honor and honesty. But the trend is, it seems that I am not striking as a guy who gives her the impression that I could be her possible romantic counterpart.

Maybe I need to get into better shape and get better body, and i know that sounds seriously shallow but as we all know, most women (and men) in today's world do care very very much about looks because that is their form of showing higher value among their circle of friends.

 

[BeDJ]

@beginningdj: I have done that for past 4 years. i asked them for drinks, movies, minigolf, gym, etc etc,

Just drinks on the first date. Period. Light, fun and doesn't dig into your wallet. Always tell a woman to "get the next round" to gauge her interest. If she does show moderate to high interest, you can take her on what you mentioned above.

There will be low interest women that will date/give you their number. They may be bored, have no plans, etc. It is up to YOU and YOU only to identify what her interest level is. Otherwise you are just wasting your time and resources.

Once a women gives you her number, she is probably 75% attracted to you. That means that if you can't close, your GAME is lacking.