"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Flakebuster!

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So you make plans with some new chick you just met, the day comes to meet up and she texts you out of the blue with some flaky excuse. Do you give her another chance?

I say no.

Reply to her text with: Who is this?

and leave it at that.

IF she replies: "It's so and so."

Reply back: "Oh damn. I must've double booked tonight. My bad."


Let her deal with it, move on and don't waste your time with a twit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Johnnyventana

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Reply to her text with: Who is this?
How would you seriously and realistically not know who she was if you had a date, that very night?! Lame. Transparent. Reeks of low-self esteem and fear of rejection.

I don't know you, simply telling you what you are telling her, with that response.

I actually had to flake on someone today, for a very legit reason. We now have plans for next week. Luckily, she still remembers me. ;)
 

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I don't like this, it ruins any chance you may have had. If she had a legit reason, you just screwed it up trying to save face because your EGO took a hit.
 

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Johnnyventana said:
How would you seriously and realistically not know who she was if you had a date, that very night?! Lame. Transparent. Reeks of low-self esteem and fear of rejection.

I don't know you, simply telling you what you are telling her, with that response.

I actually had to flake on someone today, for a very legit reason. We now have plans for next week. Luckily, she still remembers me. ;)

Well said.

People on this board are too concerned with one upping the girl who has low interest, thinking it will magically make the girl wet for him.

Instead focus on improving yourself and mainly your game so you don't get as many flakes.

Flaking is a clear indicator that you didn't do your job right prior for going for the close aka low interest.






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Zerro

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WorkingDJ said:
I don't like this, it ruins any chance you may have had. If she had a legit reason, you just screwed it up trying to save face because your EGO took a hit.
Yeah a response like that is just reeks of injured ego and you definitely won't have her contacting you again after that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jariel

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Pimp-sicle said:
Well said.

People on this board are too concerned with one upping the girl who has low interest, thinking it will magically make the girl wet for him.

Instead focus on improving yourself and mainly your game so you don't get as many flakes.

Flaking is a clear indicator that you didn't do your job right prior for going for the close aka low interest.



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Totally agree. This one upmanship really does come off as insecure and serves no purpose. Likewise, guys are acting way too defensive and running away as soon as there's a hitch.

As with rejection, I believe it best to accept it with dignity and remain upbeat: "No problem. If you fancy meeting another time, let me know. x" Then let her get back to you.

I had a bit of a cold start with the girl I'm seeing now. She was quite aloof and hard to tell if she was interested. We had a date, all went well, but when I tried to arrange a 2nd date she said she might have trouble finding time as she had a lot on. I told her to get back to me when she's next free if she fancies meeting up. The following weekend she text me, apologised for not being in touch and asked if I wanted to go out that week.

It turned out she was moving house and she literally hadn't got any time to herself. She thanked me for giving her space and said she was really glad we got round to meeting again.

And like Johnnyventana, I've had to flake on women numerous times. If they're cool about it, then it's easy to make another date with them. But if they start playing games or act weird, then I'll probably just give it a miss.
 

Professor Booty

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Jariel said:
As with rejection, I believe it best to accept it with dignity and remain upbeat: "No problem. If you fancy meeting another time, let me know. x" Then let her get back to you.
This is the correct response.
 

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Pimp-sicle said:
Well said.

People on this board are too concerned with one upping the girl who has low interest, thinking it will magically make the girl wet for him.

Instead focus on improving yourself and mainly your game so you don't get as many flakes.

Flaking is a clear indicator that you didn't do your job right prior for going for the close aka low interest.






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