"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Flake? Uh homey don't play dat.

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So this girl I've been seeing, flakes on me last night. We had plans to hang out. She calls me and says she got called in to work, no big deal, she's going to get out at 7pm (this was at 10am). She says she'd give me a call at 7. I call her at 7:40. She says her boss invited her out for dinner. The irritating thing was that I had to call her to find this out. Now I have 3 other girls interested, so it really means nothing to me (except for the lack of respect shown). When she asked me last night if I was ok with it, I said yea (with sincerity). But I have a feeling I am going to be rather busy the next time she calls asking to hang out. Thoughts and opinions are welcome.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I guess a lot of ppl will say, "next her", but whats the point? I wouldn't bother trying to meet her again cos she might flake, but you can invite her to your house on a night where you would be otherwise doing nothing, its worth a shot.

I think a lot of guys think that have demonstrated higher value than the girl when they next her...this may be right, but they also didn't get laid :D, which was the whole point in the first place.
 
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You had a date planned after 7pm.
She says boss invited her out to dinner.

Of course, she has to be so interested to blow you off for her boss..

Good call. :)
 

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I agree with L777. I think the concensus here is to next someone if they flake but I learned not to get bent out of shape about it. Continue to tease, flirt, play hot/cold through texts or phone or whatever and see how she reacts and just play off it. Once you learn to not take things personal and realize its just a game then things get at least a little, easier.. more often than not you'll see interest rise again if played right.. and if not who cares just have fun with it. Don't be so strict with rules and what not
 

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I'm usually the guy saying "don't next too soon."

But I'd NEXT over that.

**** that! She goes out with someone else and doesn't call? I'd definately tell her that **** don't fly.

JJ
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yea, even though the sex is great. I am not really interested in being second fiddle. She is going to have to work for dates now. And she's been bumped down some rungs, she did have top billing for a few weeks. Oh well.
 

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This would of been okay in my book if she would of called you and told you the situation (if you guys don't plan on getting married anytime soon, she should still be placing work and money above you... boss=money). It would of not been okay if she called you and told you, "I'm sorry I gotta miss out on hanging out tonight because Craig called me and asked me to go play air hockey."

Either way it was disrespectful and you should give her a taste of her medicine. Tell her you gotta hang out with one of your ex's or perhaps a friend she absolutely hates the night you're supposed to do something.
 

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Demote her to FB status and f^k with her when your bored..
 

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Fortunate_Juan said:
So this girl I've been seeing, flakes on me last night. We had plans to hang out. She calls me and says she got called in to work, no big deal, she's going to get out at 7pm (this was at 10am). She says she'd give me a call at 7. I call her at 7:40. She says her boss invited her out for dinner. The irritating thing was that I had to call her to find this out. Now I have 3 other girls interested, so it really means nothing to me (except for the lack of respect shown). When she asked me last night if I was ok with it, I said yea (with sincerity). But I have a feeling I am going to be rather busy the next time she calls asking to hang out. Thoughts and opinions are welcome.
How about you sit on a **** and bounce on it? It's not unusual for you now is it?
 

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dipset said:
How about you sit on a **** and bounce on it? It's not unusual for you now is it?
Care bear count down! 5 - 4 - 3 - 2 - 1 - STARE!!!!! :rockon:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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