Shalashaska07
Don Juan
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Hi all,
So here's my story:
Met a girl on a cold approach in the train station and took her on an insta-date. She lives in another city roughly 1 and a half hours away, so I met her in her city 2 weeks later for another date.
Things went well, so 2 weeks later she came here to me for a date. I made a picnic and we had a great time, went back to my place and we f--ked. She even stayed the night and we spent the next day together in bed f--king around before she went home. Whilst she was at my place, she talked about "next time" and made suggestions that this wasn't a one time thing, even saying that she could easily get addicted to me. One thing to add is that I paid her train fare for the date and picked up the bill for eating out because she's a student with no job, so she has no money to spare. The "paying for her sh*t" is purely logistical, as otherwise we wouldn't be able to see each other. I'm not buying her handbags and sh*t...
A few days later I messaged her and asked if she wanted to meet the next weekend here in my city and she was being super indecisive. On Thursday last week, I called her and asked her if she wanted to come over the next day. Again she was being indecisive and she keeps saying that she feels uncomfortable about the money situation i.e. me paying for stuff. After talking some more she slightly reluctantly agreed to meet the following day. A few hours later I text her with info on which train to take, and then she follows up with "sorry I'm not coming - have a nice evening " and hasn't sent any messages since.
What do you think is going on here? The money thing has been a recurring comment and last time we spoke she said that she feels like she loses her independence if she has to rely on someone, but if I don't pay for it then it means we don't see each other at all.
I haven't replied to her last message where she said that she wasn't coming, as I figured backing off a bit might help. Do you think I was coming on too strong or something? It's strange for me that she's super into me when we meet face to face, but with text messaging she will never initiate and takes forever to reply.
What's my next move here? My plan was to wait for 7 days since the last message then casually call her up to try and make plans to meet up. What do you think? Any tips on how to help her "get over" this money thing? For me, paying for train tickets is no problem as I'm earning and she's not, but despite my reassurances it still seems to linger with her.
Thanks a lot in advance for your thoughts!
So here's my story:
Met a girl on a cold approach in the train station and took her on an insta-date. She lives in another city roughly 1 and a half hours away, so I met her in her city 2 weeks later for another date.
Things went well, so 2 weeks later she came here to me for a date. I made a picnic and we had a great time, went back to my place and we f--ked. She even stayed the night and we spent the next day together in bed f--king around before she went home. Whilst she was at my place, she talked about "next time" and made suggestions that this wasn't a one time thing, even saying that she could easily get addicted to me. One thing to add is that I paid her train fare for the date and picked up the bill for eating out because she's a student with no job, so she has no money to spare. The "paying for her sh*t" is purely logistical, as otherwise we wouldn't be able to see each other. I'm not buying her handbags and sh*t...
A few days later I messaged her and asked if she wanted to meet the next weekend here in my city and she was being super indecisive. On Thursday last week, I called her and asked her if she wanted to come over the next day. Again she was being indecisive and she keeps saying that she feels uncomfortable about the money situation i.e. me paying for stuff. After talking some more she slightly reluctantly agreed to meet the following day. A few hours later I text her with info on which train to take, and then she follows up with "sorry I'm not coming - have a nice evening " and hasn't sent any messages since.
What do you think is going on here? The money thing has been a recurring comment and last time we spoke she said that she feels like she loses her independence if she has to rely on someone, but if I don't pay for it then it means we don't see each other at all.
I haven't replied to her last message where she said that she wasn't coming, as I figured backing off a bit might help. Do you think I was coming on too strong or something? It's strange for me that she's super into me when we meet face to face, but with text messaging she will never initiate and takes forever to reply.
What's my next move here? My plan was to wait for 7 days since the last message then casually call her up to try and make plans to meet up. What do you think? Any tips on how to help her "get over" this money thing? For me, paying for train tickets is no problem as I'm earning and she's not, but despite my reassurances it still seems to linger with her.
Thanks a lot in advance for your thoughts!