Around a month and a half ago I mentioned to a great female friend of mine (we have dated, I put her in the friends zone since I ended up getting busy due to work and going on business trips) that I had this amazing idea that I wanted to talk to her about. When she asked what it was, I told her she'd have to wait until I figured out the details. Since that day, I would bring up this "amazing idea" I have, but constantly kept telling her to wait just a little longer. She mentioned that she felt like I was playing games. I told her I needed more time to figure out a few more details before divulging my idea. I guess this frustrated her and few days ago she completely blew up on me..here are the details:
During our last conversation, she mentioned having to go take care of some work and needing to leave. I reminded her that I have yet to tell her the details of my idea. She asked me to tell her right there and then. I started asking her questions as to whether she trusts me (she's been conversing differently with me lately), to which she answered "I don't know". I then ended up telling her that it would be better suited to tell her of my idea at a later time. She ended up losing it at this point saying: "fu#k you jedinats, you know I fu#king hate it when you do this whole waiting thing, but you just go and do it again". It was the most sincere "F#ck you" a girl has ever said to me, it actually kind of hurt. I ended up telling her that the way we have been talking recently makes me feel like I am not trusted. She ended up telling me that "you give me no reason to trust you, you've been telling me that you have something to tell me, but you always back out. That's not trustworthy. You keep playing with me and you don't understand that it can be hurtful. I feel like you are stringing me along, and you have no intention of communicating with me. You know what, tell me next year, or just never tell me. I don't know what you want me to do or say."
At this point, I tried calming her down, and told her that I'll just start telling her of my idea right there. She ended up saying "I don't care! Go do whatever you have planned! not interested!, I'm leaving, etc". I ended up blurting out my amazing idea, at which point she goes "there you said you wanted to say, now I have to go take care of work". I ended telling her that "I never knew you were this angered about me telling you to wait". At this point, she started telling me about her ex who played with her emotions for 2 years, and how it completely ruined her. She felt I was mimicking him, and told me she would not stand for it, not from a friend, or a boyfriend. I asked if she felt whether I was playing around with her emotions, to which she replied with "don't give yourself that much credit." she ended up dishing out the **** word a couple more times throughout the conversation, before we departed.
This girl is pretty religious (so am I..) and it just caught me by complete surprise that she could get this angry. I wasn't surprised that she threw out the **** word (She does swear like any normal person), it was just that it was never directed at me. I now feel that I genuinely frustrated her, and that she really is angry at me. I haven't talked to her since last week. How should I go about making things better? Call her and talk to her about the issue? Ignore her? Keep talking to her normally and don't bring up the issue? Be humorous about the situation? She has a pretty great sense of humor, but I am not sure if I should joke about something that she may consider serious.
I was going to shoot her a text tomorrow around the time she goes to church saying: "You told me to F#ck off the last time we talked. I thought it was pretty cute. Have fun at church, that's where I am right now"
This would probably piss her off even more, am I right?
During our last conversation, she mentioned having to go take care of some work and needing to leave. I reminded her that I have yet to tell her the details of my idea. She asked me to tell her right there and then. I started asking her questions as to whether she trusts me (she's been conversing differently with me lately), to which she answered "I don't know". I then ended up telling her that it would be better suited to tell her of my idea at a later time. She ended up losing it at this point saying: "fu#k you jedinats, you know I fu#king hate it when you do this whole waiting thing, but you just go and do it again". It was the most sincere "F#ck you" a girl has ever said to me, it actually kind of hurt. I ended up telling her that the way we have been talking recently makes me feel like I am not trusted. She ended up telling me that "you give me no reason to trust you, you've been telling me that you have something to tell me, but you always back out. That's not trustworthy. You keep playing with me and you don't understand that it can be hurtful. I feel like you are stringing me along, and you have no intention of communicating with me. You know what, tell me next year, or just never tell me. I don't know what you want me to do or say."
At this point, I tried calming her down, and told her that I'll just start telling her of my idea right there. She ended up saying "I don't care! Go do whatever you have planned! not interested!, I'm leaving, etc". I ended up blurting out my amazing idea, at which point she goes "there you said you wanted to say, now I have to go take care of work". I ended telling her that "I never knew you were this angered about me telling you to wait". At this point, she started telling me about her ex who played with her emotions for 2 years, and how it completely ruined her. She felt I was mimicking him, and told me she would not stand for it, not from a friend, or a boyfriend. I asked if she felt whether I was playing around with her emotions, to which she replied with "don't give yourself that much credit." she ended up dishing out the **** word a couple more times throughout the conversation, before we departed.
This girl is pretty religious (so am I..) and it just caught me by complete surprise that she could get this angry. I wasn't surprised that she threw out the **** word (She does swear like any normal person), it was just that it was never directed at me. I now feel that I genuinely frustrated her, and that she really is angry at me. I haven't talked to her since last week. How should I go about making things better? Call her and talk to her about the issue? Ignore her? Keep talking to her normally and don't bring up the issue? Be humorous about the situation? She has a pretty great sense of humor, but I am not sure if I should joke about something that she may consider serious.
I was going to shoot her a text tomorrow around the time she goes to church saying: "You told me to F#ck off the last time we talked. I thought it was pretty cute. Have fun at church, that's where I am right now"
This would probably piss her off even more, am I right?
