Five main mistakes men make in relationships with women

[backseatjuan]

You got your 'turn' to be with her, she is _not_ 'your' woman.
Five main mistakes men make in relationships with women

Family institution in the last couple of generations has suffered a crushing collapse. Only official marriages break up more than half, when it comes to simple relationships, the figure goes off the scale by 90%, people who have lived all their lives with the first and only partner today are just a few and hard to come by. Why the relationships are falling part and how to survive parting with the least loss to the budget and the psyche?

Main reason for such failures is inertia. Most men continue to behave with women as if they live in the 19th century: they build themselves up as gentlemen and knights, and women are treated as noble ladies who will appreciate their achievements. In reality, the conditions have changed dramatically and the old behavior algorithms have long ceased to work. The best analogy of modern relationships is carsharing – renting without ownership. A person who understands how this business works will never make elementary mistakes in a relationship:

1. Woman who is sleeping with me – is mine. She belongs to me

This is the worst mistake most men make. The primacy of a man in a relationship was abolished back in nineteen hundreds, since then a woman is absolutely free and independent person, she does not belong to anyone and owes nothing to anyone. If she lives or sleeps with you today, it does not mean that she is yours, it means that today it is your turn to live or sleep with her. When the lease expires, it will go to the next client.

Deduction - Do not treat the lease as some property you own.

2. You need to court a woman. You must pay for her

Second most dangerous mistake, which carries with itself heavy consequences. Men who live by the norms of the XIX century, actively invest into the woman with whom they sleep, and find themselves very offended when a woman takes the investment and disappears. The reason for this error comes from paragraph 1: modern woman does not belong to you, investment in someone else’s object or subject is a great mistake. It is same as buying new rims for your rental car or installing a supercharger and aftermarket exhaust onto it, so that in a week completely new stranger could use the fruits of your investments.

Deduction – Do not invest in what you do not own.

3. It is shameful to be a ho

Again, nineteenth century norms are fogging the heads of modern men, because of which many lose not only money but also their freedom. When a man gets hooked on items 2 and 3, anger and resentment begin to prevail. How so – _his_ woman left him with _his_ money, gifts, children and property? At this point, for some reason, the man decides that car sharing is embarrassing and that the next person in the queue will find it unpleasant to know that he is not the first tenant. The details of the lease should generally put it into a stupor and the desire to send the chosen one to the scrap. Therefore, a man begins to publish intimate photos, to disclose personal data and other information, which in his opinion will discredit the woman. In reality, almost all women today are by default social, and society does not see anything shameful in such practice – her body, what is does with her body is her business. But the disclosure of personal data, the publication of personal photographs and other information not specified in the lease agreement, may turn out to be a real prison sentence for a man.

Deduction – always keep in mind that rent in modern society is a standard service, and disclosure of personal information is a criminal offense.

4. Woman’s kid – is my kid

Mistake that costs so many men dozens of years of life and half of their accumulated over the life of relationship property. The statement made in paragraph 4 was relevant in the XIX century, but was outdated a hundred years ago. According to modern laws, the child of a whom the woman gave birth belongs to her and only to her. A woman decides with whom he will live, with whom he will communicate and who will finance him. When a woman decides that your turn to sleep with her is over, she takes the child and takes him to the next in line. The cost of the trailer, which you voluntarily bought and hitched to the rental car, no one will return to you, besides, by law, you are obligated to cover the cost of its maintenance for its lifetime.

Deduction – do not buy a trailer for a rental car at your own expense

5. Women don’t leave the good men

Last and most unpleasant mistake. In fact, as in most other cases, the law abiding citizen of the sucker pays for everyone, and the most arrogant and quirky removes the cream. For good behavior, no one will extend the rent for free, but to force them to pay for the repair of the interior, which the previous tenant spit on and burned with cigarettes, why not.

Deduction – carefully read the fine print and do not let yourself be deceived



We see each day, even on this forum, men making mistakes assuming different good things about women, and getting relieves when she comes back, or reaches out, or whatever. Never trust a woman. Woman is just a temporary object you have sex with. Don't be fooled, she will not be with you forever, don't trust her. Only trust the game.

 

[Serenity]

Only official marriages break up more than half, when it comes to simple relationships, the figure goes off the scale by 90%, people who have lived all their lives with the first and only partner today are just a few and hard to come by.

Fair enough, these women are rental cars. So what type of car is the 50% and 10% you didn't talk about? You know the ones that are rented for decades until either renter or the car dies.

It is unrealistic to think the first relationship will last. I've had several that didn't work out for various reasons, same for almost everyone I know. All these break ups and divorces contribute to the statistics, but that doesn't mean they don't meet their match who they stick with for a long long time.

I'd say that anyone who agrees with you should follow your advice, don't have relationships at all and definitely don't make children. You are not fit for it.

To anyone else, the first mistake is regarding women as objects in the first place. The one main point I agree with is that women are not the property of a man, that does not make it pointless to have a relationship, but rather something to reflect upon before going for a relationship. What it should be based on.

The second mistake is worrying more about her wanting to continue than oneself wanting to. It is correct that we shouldn't worry whether she'll be with us forever or not, or heavily compromise ourselves in an attempt to make it so. We should think whether we want to be with her forever or not, the probability for a relationship to work out good for that long. Far too many men go out of their way to make it work, the resentment grows, the woman notices and she does what the man should have done long ago, break up or divorce.

The third mistake is going in with little thought. It's their d!ck or their emotions or both running the show. Successful relationships doesn't have to be left up to pure luck, putting in a substantial amount of thought before critical decisions will greatly reduce the risks of a bad choice. But many men jump in blind or deluded by their emotions and drives, overlook things that will likely snowball into HUGE issues down the line and are generally short sighted. You'd think a guy would need consistent assurance on multiple levels over a long time before making such critical decisions, but the amount of dumb fvcks in existence is astounding.

The fourth mistake is doing relationship because of social expectations. This ties the third mistake, except it's the wrong type of thought rather than driven by sex or emotions. It's better being single, fvck around and be incredibly patient about finding a partner. When such a prospect is found the man should carefully and rationally consider all aspects of it before deciding, not rushing it to achieve the meaningless goal of everyone around them.

Fifth mistake, not having a contingency plan. Think, what if it doesn't work out? Be aware of what might go wrong and worst case consequences before going in, safeguard yourself. This is best done when you'd least expect it to go bad, when you'd least think that's a possibility. I live with my girlfriend, but we have a written agreement about what would happen if we break up, what I take and what she takes, what happens if one of us were to pass away etc. If we broke up tomorrow I'd love to present the contract in court if she took anything that rightfully belongs to me, every valuable item is listed on it. Basically she can't fvck me over in court. If a girl is reluctant to create and sign such a contract it's a red flag by itself, no excuse. It has no consequence unless one party ends the relationship, so not signing can only mean she doesn't think the relationship will last, no exception.

Again, if relationships don't appeal to you, the reader, then you can overlook all of this. It doesn't apply to you, go spin your plates instead, wrap it up and keep it simple.

 

[XThrax]

We see each day, even on this forum, men making mistakes assuming different good things about women, and getting relieves when she comes back, or reaches out, or whatever. Never trust a woman. Woman is just a temporary object you have sex with. Don't be fooled, she will not be with you forever, don't trust her. Only trust the game.

I would say its more like never trust anyone completely.

 

[Roober]

You really love the number 5 don't you? I think the one rule that encompasses all of these and most of mens issues in general...

A man who compromises his values, needs, and goals to supplicate to the fleeting whims of a woman.

It's that little voice that says, "I shouldn't be doing this $hit". Many men ignore that little guy in a fear of losing access to pvssy. To never trust a woman is a product of weakness, not strength. If your life doesnt revolve around her, trusting her or not is irrelevant.