"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hey everyone,

Decided I was going to start taking fitness seriously after my last three break ups I've thought that its time to start adopting habits that I have a lot of respect for and dropping ones that are holding me back. I want to be able to look in the mirror and respect myself and what I have accomplished.

Bad things that I have stopped doing in the past two months.

-quit watching porn completely, I installed some software on my computer so I can't even look at it now and have been clean for over two months

-quit drinking excessively, I would only binge about once maybe twice a week before but I recently had two good friends go to rehab, so I think I am going to cut binge drinking out completely or at least only once or twice a year.

-quit staying up late and not getting sleep for no reason just surfing the web, its kind of like an addiction.

Good things I have started doing

-boxing lessons once a week, my university has a club that I have been practicing with that is free and meets once a week during the summer. I will start practicing more once the fall semester starts up in August and the club starts meeting more frequenlty.

Couch to five k program- I have never been great at running and am pretty out of shape 178 and 6 feet tall with a bit of a gut. I decided two months ago to do one of these couch to five k programs and have gotten awesome results. Went from not being able to run a full mile back in April to just finishing my first five k with a time of around 28:00. Plenty of room for improvement :D . I have begun talking to my brother who was a competive runner in high school about helping me train.

My first long term goal is to break 20 minutes on the 5 k which is very possible I feel. Then we will see about getting it lower.

I am currently training 2-3 times a week just running for thirty minutes. I am very gradually bump this up to 4 thirty minute work outs plus 1 long run each week with two rest days.

Today: 28:00 5k 178lbs
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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28:45 5k. I was on pace for a 24 minute 5k, however half way through I thought I was going to die so I had to slow it down significantly.

Short term goal is to bump up my running frequency to 4 times a week and try to shave some seconds off my time/ try to pace myself better.

Positive note from this run was that I ran around an 8 minute mile which is a PR.
 

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29:00 5k, I think my hang up has been mainly mental. I feel pretty spent at the end of the run but I still have some energy left
 

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Lots going on with me, I have been taking my qualifying exam for my PhD in Genetics. Easily passed :) its crazy that figuring out women is so much harder than science for me haha.

Wednesday I went to boxing, good mitt work and cardio work out.

Thursday did some light weight training.

Today I actually ran for about 30 minutes straight and then for the next 45 minutes I did a combination of walking and running. Probably went about five miles total which is a PR. :D

Weight is down to 176, not sure if this is due to a decrease in water weight though.
 

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28:45 5k. I picked up the pace big time for the last 800m and still had a lot of energy at the end of the course but was totally winded. Thursday I am going to try for more consistent laps. I was definitely dragging the pace in the middle.

Legs are looking a lot more toned up and have probably dropped like one pant size over the last two months of doing this. I am going to try to get my diet more serious in the coming weeks, it is very clean now but I am not counting my calories the way I should be to start losing more weight. Also I am going to start drinking a lot more water throughout the day, I think I get kind of dehydrated at work.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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27:15 5k last night, think I overcame whatever mental hang up I was having.

I was still pretty exhausted afterwards.

Boxing was on Wednesday and went really well also.
 

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played alot of squash yesterday and also lifted weights.

today had a 27:45 5k, really was exhausted during the middle yet did not have to sprint at all for the last two laps as I have been doing for my past two better times.

177 lbs
 

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40 minute run tonight to build endurance. It went very well, felt great afterwards.

Also played a few games of squash

179 lbs, i have been eating very cleanly but also drinking a ton more water which is causing my weight to fluctuate maybe.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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keep up the good work. I'm not really a distance runner as i am horrible as pacing myself but what i do to increase my speed is to run long distances to accustom my body to the long time of running and then i do 1 mile fast runs/sprints.

I was getting my miles close to 6 minutes.

When i ran my 13mile race it was more like sprint, run job, sprint, run jog, and i used the slow jog pace as a recovery. That's just how i overcame not being able to pace properly.

It just makes sense to train some quick sprints/ fast runs if your ultimately going to breaking sub 20min for a 5k which is around 6 min miles. Congrats for keeping up with your program.
 

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ran some more and broke the 27:00 mark with a time of 26:51 Friday.

Today I just ran a 26:40.

Slowly working my times down.

keep up the good work. I'm not really a distance runner as i am horrible as pacing myself but what i do to increase my speed is to run long distances to accustom my body to the long time of running and then i do 1 mile fast runs/sprints.

I was getting my miles close to 6 minutes.

When i ran my 13mile race it was more like sprint, run job, sprint, run jog, and i used the slow jog pace as a recovery. That's just how i overcame not being able to pace properly.

It just makes sense to train some quick sprints/ fast runs if your ultimately going to breaking sub 20min for a 5k which is around 6 min miles. Congrats for keeping up with your program.
Thanks for the tips man (also nice times)! I do plan on doing sprints and other training methods in the future right now I am trying to get acclimated to just running at this pace and increasing the volume of runs. I am trying to make running like the number two priority behind getting my PhD right now.
 

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Good goals, keep up the hard work!
 

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very pleasant 45 minute run last night after the weekend off plan on running again tomorrow, this is pretty addicting haha
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sorry for not updating, been camping out in the mountains :)

anyways about diet..

I pretty much exclusively eat the following chicken, potatoes, different kinds of nuts, all kinds of fruit and veggies, whole grain stuff, etc. I don't eat any really processed or sugary stuff anymore.

just ran a 26:23 tonight
 

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was on vacation for the past long while and went on two 45 minute runs on the backroads of maine, also hiked like 6 miles three days. I am going to get back into the normal regiment now.
 

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ran around a 7 minute mile today followed by an 8 minute mile with rest in between. Ran a couple of 800 meters also, boxed yesterday
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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