"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Fist Fighting a guy who talked smack

illmatic1005

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ok..heres the story...

over the summer my gf(well she wasnt my gf yet) went into a car witht his kid she knew..they hooked up but then the kid whipped out his d!ck but my gf didnt wanna do anything(remeber that she wasnt my gf when this happend)..my gf told her brother and ever sisnce then hes been wanting to beat the living sh!t outta him..the kid keeps apoligizing and saying she doesnt wanna fight and whatever but the brother insists on fighting...

i didnt hear this story until the other day..and i also heard this kid called me gf the town slut and stuff..this got me really angry..

so the other day after i heard this story..we stumble upon this kid in mcdonalds...we stare him down but didnt wanna do anything..we walk past him and my gf's brother(who is also my friend) throw a drink at him ...

it was the first day i ever saw this kid and heard what he did and i punched him inthe face as we were walking..we got into this brawl and i threw him across the floor and got broken up...

now my gf is mad because she thought i was a 'lover not a fighter", which i am but this kid got me really annoyed..she told me that she can never look at me the same again..

why is this?
any advice?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Bat

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I love the irony here.

You are man enough to punch somebody in the face.

But you aren't man enough to walk away from your girlfriend who has no respect for you.
 

Columbia

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yeah, we are men.

but i think that it's equally as masculine to just accept some things without throwing a hissy-fit in broad daylight.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Capt'n Sav-A-Ho - don't die over a hor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

illmatic1005

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my gf said to me and her brother...

'that all happend 5 months ago..leave him alone..i feel bad for him, etc"

and she told my friend

'' y would he do that..fighting is unattractive''
 

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Hey this is your girlfriend issue not yours because it happened BEFORE you dated her.

If this girl can suck on your d1ck, seeing someone elses d1ck is not going to traumatize her. The kid was goofey and he got no play and nothing really happen out of the ordinary (your girlfriend ain't so innocent). I would stay away from her over protective short fused brother because if he gets mad from a dude who exposed his d1ck imagine what he will do to a dude who plowed his d1ck into his sister (that's you.)

Move on.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
ok..heres the story...

over the summer my gf(well she wasnt my gf yet) went into a car witht his kid she knew..they hooked up but then the kid whipped out his d!ck but my gf didnt wanna do anything(remeber that she wasnt my gf when this happend)..my gf told her brother and ever sisnce then hes been wanting to beat the living sh!t outta him..the kid keeps apoligizing and saying she doesnt wanna fight and whatever but the brother insists on fighting...

i didnt hear this story until the other day..and i also heard this kid called me gf the town slut and stuff..this got me really angry..

so the other day after i heard this story..we stumble upon this kid in mcdonalds...we stare him down but didnt wanna do anything..we walk past him and my gf's brother(who is also my friend) throw a drink at him ...

it was the first day i ever saw this kid and heard what he did and i punched him inthe face as we were walking..we got into this brawl and i threw him across the floor and got broken up...

now my gf is mad because she thought i was a 'lover not a fighter", which i am but this kid got me really annoyed..she told me that she can never look at me the same again..

why is this?
any advice?
You should have never fought that kid, he already apologized.

All you did was bully that kid, which isn't cool.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stéphane

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Your a f*ckin asswhole. I'm never giving you advice. He did a f*ckin bold move, that wasn't smart, and he appologised for it.
 

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i kno, i kno...i knew the whole story and to tell u the truth..i didnt even care one bit..it was the past and i knew the kid felt sorry...i even told my friend to leave him alone...

but when we walked passed him the only thing i though was "should i look at him or not"

i didnt care about him or what he did..i wasnt gonna do anything

i just snapped and decked him in the face and threw him across the floor..

and by the way..i feel REALLY bad
 

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and by the way..i feel REALLY bad

It happens. Just hope he doesn't sue. I also hope you were not on security camera video footage.


i also heard this kid called me gf the town slut and stuff..this got me really angry..

Why? I have been with a couple town slvts. They are usually great in bed. Any guy who calls your gf a slvt is just jealous and bitter about his own failure.
 

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I'd get mad too man, don't put up with that guy's sh*t. You want to be protective of your girlfriend, but not overly protective. Just move on with your life. What's happened has already happened.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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I live for peace but we can get to cappin.
Anyways, I think you over re-acted on some dumb sh!t. So, what if some guy flashed his d!ck to your girl before you were dating. I got drunks guys flashing their package to my girlfriend and I don't care. She can look but, she can't touch. I also, had drunk b!tches come in to a bathroom while I was peeing flashn their t!ts at me. My girl didn't mind either. Cause, we can trust each other. Stop being insecure. If she takes it to another level where she crosses the line then, you can act up. Otherwise just chill out...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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heh.



You need to learn some personal development material. Anthony Robbins. Look him up.


~Why should you care if he called your gf a slut? so what? Does it actually make her a slut?

If I came up to you and called your mom b1tch - is she a 'b1tch'? If a granny came up to you and said the same thing you would probably laugh and walk off. You need to shake out this conditioning of fighting someone over some small BS. As kids were are all conditioned to smack whoever calls our momma or GF a slut etc. These idiots who say 'well, your a MAN' - wtf. IIts all BS conditioning by society and you shouldn't live by it.

Next time, when someone calls your GF a slut, go to you guy, ask him 'did you call my gf a slut?' If he gets ready to fight, says yes, or no - say - 'Well, shes great in bed' Smile, wink and walk on. See what happens.

Dont waste you energy and will over some small BS. Live your life and be happy.
 

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The Bat said:
I love the irony here.

You are man enough to punch somebody in the face.

But you aren't man enough to walk away from your girlfriend who has no respect for you.
This is the biggest issue brought up in this thread.

A relationship where a girl has no respect for you will not last long.

That she would have the balls to say something like she said means she's not too afraid of you leaving her for it nor does she really care.

You aren't Mr. Right to her but rather Mr. Right Now.
 

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Did I really understand that the 2 of you threw a drink at the kid who was alone and then punched him in the face without warning?!

You are lucky that there was no man with ballz there. If I had been there I would have kicked your butt. I really cant belive that people are actually saying you behaved "great" and like "a real man".
You acted like a foolish child. A real man would have walked away or even talked to the poor afc guy. He already had apologized.
Be glad when you dont have to go to court and end up "paying for his pain". Could become an expensive punch.

I you had to settle this with your fists, then "like a real man" do it face to face with warning and alone. Make it a Gentleman's Agreement. I was a military instructor and I am a MMA Fighter, but something primitive like that goes beyond me.
 

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If he called your gf the town slut then i think you are justified in kicking his A$$. If however someone told you that he did, i woulda walked up to him and asked him to his face infront of your gf and her bro whether he said such a thing.
 

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LOL SO? I'd just intimidate the guy. I wouldnt beat him up. I talk **** about people's girls all the time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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