Fishing for compliments?

[jab1023]

A woman I know keeps telling me about her workouts unprompted, and says things like, “Either (whatever) is either a really good work out or I'm out o shape...and I don't think I'm out of shape."

It's happened more than once in under a week without it really being necessary conversation and she knows/can tell I lift weights.

It's not a great ioi, but my question is what is the best way to respond when women fish for compliments?

 

[backseatjuan]

She's trying to be social with you, and would love to date you. It's her 'hey dude notice me, I'm a woman, I'm next to you, and I want you to notice me'

But if you keep unsocial with her, she'll eventually stop talking to you like that, and it will be just hi and bye.

 

[jab1023]

She's trying to be social with you, and would love to date you. It's her 'hey dude notice me, I'm a woman, I'm next to you, and I want you to notice me'

But if you keep unsocial with her, she'll eventually stop talking to you like that, and it will be just hi and bye.

Yeah, not sure I want to get involved with a married woman, but it's hard to tell what she wants to happen. The first time she saw me she looked down at my crotch and smiled lol.

But this is more of a general question. When women do this that you are into, do you compliment, playfully bus them for fishing...etc.

 

[backseatjuan]

What would you do if your guy friend asked you "hey man, keep working these abs, do you think there is progress?"

I'd say, yea dude, cut down your body fat, abs will show. If you keep working them your belly will look bigger, better run and loose fat.

Be honest, if you can suggest something. That good you will treat her with, will come around to you, she will rep you with girls. She's a woman, and all women like to socialize with popular people. You're popular!

She's not fishing for compliments, your view of reality is definitely wrong.

 

[The Gambler]

Good posts here.

I always try to be social (within reason) with whoever happens to be around me -- not so much with total strangers in random places, but more in an environment like the OP mentioned (work). It doesn't matter if the person is a 20 year-old single hottie or a married sixty year-old man. The more experience you gain with you social/speaking skills can only be helpful when you do see a woman where there may be a romantic interest.

You can easily decide how far to take things when communicating with someone. I say be friendly, and if she goes a little too far for you, just put the brakes on. There could be some EXCELLENT practice here.

 

[jab1023]

Good posts here.

I always try to be social (within reason) with whoever happens to be around me -- not so much with total strangers in random places, but more in an environment like the OP mentioned (work). It doesn't matter if the person is a 20 year-old single hottie or a married sixty year-old man. The more experience you gain with you social/speaking skills can only be helpful when you do see a woman where there may be a romantic interest.

You can easily decide how far to take things when communicating with someone. I say be friendly, and if she goes a little too far for you, just put the brakes on. There could be some EXCELLENT practice here.

Thanks! Great post. And as the person before you metnioned maybe "fishing for compliments" wasn't the best way to describe it, put she certainly seems to be trying to show her value. It just threw me off because most married women only talk about banal things, and she seemed to be more trying to show me her value.

Thanks guys, keep it up if anyone has more to add!