"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wonderer

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first try at day game today.

It was tough. did 3 approaches this is how they went:

first one I asked her opinion on some shorts I had just bought, she was polish so we couldn't speak to well. definitely looked like she wanted to get away!

second I asked if this was the only store in town, she said maybe you should go in and ask, I laughed it off and said good idea!

3rd was standing outside a store - i approached and said so sorry to keep you waiting! she was laughing but wouldn't give any info on her self, no name or anything, she was laughing the whole time but probably awkward nervous laughing!

Found the experience tough! are girls always freaked out? Do I keep talking to get beyond this point or all girls different? I am usually very confident but this felt different for me. Also live in a small city so there's not many places to go about and id be walking up and down the same area.

Any insights / thoughts / tips would be great.

Thanks
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheMonkeyKing

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I'm not one for cold approaching in the day time. Women are not in the right mind set and are obviously freaked out by any guy who just wanders up to them.

There are two or three scenarios which will work out.

1) You are in the same context with the girl. You might be sat on the same train (this has worked for me before). You might be sat in an area like a cafe or pub etc. What you really need to be looking for is indicators of interest - lasting eye contact, smiles, playing with hair, second looks etc etc. Just walking up to strangers is just straight intimidating and will hardly ever work.

2) She is providing you with a service and has to engage conversation with you anyway - shop assistants, waitresses, barmaids. These people are very good source of practice if you need it.

3) You have a wingman/woman with you. Firstly, having a woman with you is social proof as long as she's good looking, and a third person dissipates tension for both you and the target. Your wing can also provide feedback. There is a good chance you will be doing something very subtle - or even not very subtle - that will be ruining it for you.

Opposed to 'cold approaching' to get dates, start holding conversations with people in your general life to get your confidence up. Men and women. The fact you are on the pull is probably written all over your face and is scaring the living sh!t out of your targets. The fact you have time and feel the need to go out approaching women speaks volumes about the rest of your social life.
 

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At least you tried and that is all that matters. If you keep trying you will definitely catch someones attention. Just be unwavering. It only gets awkward if you feel and act awkwardly.
 

Mr Wright

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I'm a month or two into daygame again and I'd say just approach direct, it really saves you time. Indirect stuff is pretty pointless and you end up in long drawn out interactions where it's hard to transition or she can't work out why you're talking to her. Going direct, at the start you'll have to do the majority of the talking and moving the interaction forward. It takes a while to get used to talking to a girl during the day and having the mental acuteness to pick up on what's she's saying and end up having a conversation that she firstly remembers and wants more of. I'd say it's one of the toughest things I've done in terms of pure bollocks because there's no facade, no profile to hide behind or alcohol or music...

Once you get into it, you'll see how fun and addictive it is.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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l__i__l

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It's all about the mindset. Don't care about the outcome but enjoy the journey.
If your mindset is to get the number of every girl you approach, your success rate will be low.
Instead approach, because YOU have fun and want to be entertained.

Watch videos from this guy's channel below. Granted he approaches for pranks, you will find with his approaches he can get the number more often than not:
https://www.youtube.com/user/EpicFiveTV/videos
 

Bingo-Player

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first try at day game today.

It was tough. did 3 approaches this is how they went:

first one I asked her opinion on some shorts I had just bought, she was polish so we couldn't speak to well. definitely looked like she wanted to get away!

second I asked if this was the only store in town, she said maybe you should go in and ask, I laughed it off and said good idea!

3rd was standing outside a store - i approached and said so sorry to keep you waiting! she was laughing but wouldn't give any info on her self, no name or anything, she was laughing the whole time but probably awkward nervous laughing!

Found the experience tough! are girls always freaked out? Do I keep talking to get beyond this point or all girls different? I am usually very confident but this felt different for me. Also live in a small city so there's not many places to go about and id be walking up and down the same area.

Any insights / thoughts / tips would be great.

Thanks

it has a lot to do with how you are feeling , if you are anxious then it is emitted from your voice and body language and others will feed off this vibe you give off ........

but it's all practice anyway keep going
 

wonderer

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It's all about the mindset. Don't care about the outcome but enjoy the journey.
If your mindset is to get the number of every girl you approach, your success rate will be low.
Instead approach, because YOU have fun and want to be entertained.

Watch videos from this guy's channel below. Granted he approaches for pranks, you will find with his approaches he can get the number more often than not:
https://www.youtube.com/user/EpicFiveTV/videos

Yeah seen loads of youtube vids and thought id try. they make it look so incredibly easy?
 

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Show intent right off the bat. Your situational openers are clearly an excuse to talk to them and they know it, which makes you look weak. I suggest doing some more research first. Look up day game rsd todd on youtube
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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