First time sex with new girl..

[SteR]

Ok well first off, I'm not a virgin.. but I've never had a seriously girlfriend before so all my (4-5) times with girls have been one night stands.

The first time I had sex I was wasted and due to a combination of whiskey **** (I was wasted), nerves and inability to see anything in the pitch black, I couldn't hold an erection... and it's kinda made me question myself on every other occasion.

The next few times I ended up in bed with girls I was able to maintain an erection but I just couldn't get off.. and now, with the new girl I'm seeing, I'm kinda worried that the same thing's gonna happen. The difference this time however is that I actually care about this girl.. she's not just some one night stand thing I picked up in the bar.

Any tips on how to make sure I don't screw this up? I suppose I'm just gonna try and focus on the moment. I figured I probably shouldn't jack it a couple of days before but then I'm worried I'll finish too quickly haha.. ohh what to do?

 

[amoka]

Are bf/gf with this chick or she is someone you're contemplating on seeing. In any event, try sexing her to see if she's any good for you. Maybe she is equally frighten by the plight of sex. If she wants to have sex with you, there is nothing you can possibly do wrong. She'll have a blast either way so don't worry about it. If she just someone that you are thinking about sexing and is not really your gf, then leave her for someone who would have sex with you when you need it. If she wants to be your gf but does not want to sex you, simply tell her "I don't date women I don't sex". Simple.

 

[SteR]

Well she's just some girl I've been out on a few dates with. There's obviously attraction and we've been making out a fair bit so I'm thinking of stepping it up and bringing her back to mine next time. I guess I'll just have to go with the flow.. I'm just getting a little anxious since it's been a while since I've been in this position and I don't have the most experience! :nervous:

 

[BobMo']

Just take your time and enjoy her *****. Eventually biology will win out, and you'll splooge. Any idiot can do it, and sp can you.

 

[SteR]

Well, it looks as though it's game on for tomorrow... I just hope I can relax and stay hard Anymore tips?

 

[Paintballguy]

I found that if I rub one out earlier, I have more control. idk could be just a mental thing.

Just don't put too much stress on yourself.

 

[SteR]

I think that'd be a bad idea for me since i'm more concerned with being able to stay hard/bust. If I masturbate then that's gonna make it harder for both

 

[King_Supreme]

stop worrying about it. trust me. focus on enjoying her and pleasuring her. i used to "rub one out" earlier too in the past so i wouldnt explode too quick but i dont do that anymore in fact depending on your chemistry it mnight cause you not to get up when its time because youve already released earlier. but seriously dont worry about u just wanna focus on making her feel good. theres been a few times when i couldnt get up so i just spend the time doing other stuff to the girl and makin her feel good that even if oi never got up she would still enjoy her self with me sexually. try a different condom too. i personally like trojans very sensitive in a dark purple box. anything else wont let me stay up. and if u cant get it up or whatever else just be honest wit her about it and more than likely shell be willing to do whatever she can to help you out for that moment. whenever i had a problem i'd just tell the chick that my big homie dont wanna cooperate right now and not once have i gotten a bad or embarrasing reaction. it usually results in her doing something extra to make sure we complete the act. i even had one girl start crying when i couldnt get up because she thought that meant i wasnt attracted to her. lol

 

[DJCorleone]

try some kegel exercises if you feel like it, would help!

http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/kegelsmen.htm

 

[SteR]

thanks for the advice guys