"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First time sarging, Feild Report

PhantomNYC

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Feild report: PhantomNYC and Helix

First time sarging
For both of us this was the first official sarging experience. We instantly walked into the virgin media store and started scanning for targets. There probably were potential targets there but we kept saying "she’s too old" or "there are too many in the group" We were nervous, making excuses for ourselves, saying we should find someone our own age (18). So we leave the store and start walking around the flea market that was being held in union square, we figured we should start small, ask for simple directions so we went up to 2 groups of women and asked where NYU was, the conversation lasted about 15 sec each, nothing much. So we go back into virgin media and we see 2 teenage girls, we walk up to them, this time actually trying an opener. We ask them "who do u think lies more, guys or girls" We did great, teased them, had them laughing, had fun with the conversation (they said girls) or about 2 min. It felt great, like it was nothing, the pleasure of getting a great response.
We left virgin media and wandered the city without getting anywhere or doing any approaches ("we couldn't find anyone"). So we decide to head back to virgin media after an hour of dryness. We walked up to one women who worked there and tried the same opener again, worked great. At first we were thinking "she’s too old" (she was maybe 25), but at that point we stopped caring, "FVCK THAT!!", we approached and pulled it off. Helix wanted to walk up to another girl who worked there, but I’m thinking, "what if they talk to each other?", right after that we both instantly think "WHO CARES?" and burst out laughing. For the next 30 min we went from one approach to another, we just stopped caring if there were 4 girls in the group or if they were all older than us. It had just become fun to see reactions. We did 10 approaches total that day, neither of us had done that much in one day in our whole lives.
AND THAT’S WHAT SARGING IS ALL ABOUT!!!!

TO EVERYONE WHO IS STILL SITTING AT THEIR COMPUTERS OR IS STILL SCARED TO APPROACH STRANGERS, GET OUT THERE AND SARGE!! FIELD WORK REALLY IS WHERE MOST OF YOUR GROWTH CAN HAPPEN. WE MADE MORE OF A BREAKTHROUGH IN A FEW HOURS THEN WE COULD HAVE MADE READING 1000 POSTS ON THIS SITE. STOP CARING WHAT THEY WILL THINK OF YOU, GET OUT THERE AND HAVE FUN!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Solomon

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cheaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

PhantomNYC said:
Feild report: PhantomNYC and Helix

First time sarging
For both of us this was the first official sarging experience. We instantly walked into the virgin media store and started scanning for targets. There probably were potential targets there but we kept saying "she’s too old" or "there are too many in the group" We were nervous, making excuses for ourselves, saying we should find someone our own age (18). So we leave the store and start walking around the flea market that was being held in union square, we figured we should start small, ask for simple directions so we went up to 2 groups of women and asked where NYU was, the conversation lasted about 15 sec each, nothing much. So we go back into virgin media and we see 2 teenage girls, we walk up to them, this time actually trying an opener. We ask them "who do u think lies more, guys or girls" We did great, teased them, had them laughing, had fun with the conversation (they said girls) or about 2 min. It felt great, like it was nothing, the pleasure of getting a great response.
We left virgin media and wandered the city without getting anywhere or doing any approaches ("we couldn't find anyone"). So we decide to head back to virgin media after an hour of dryness. We walked up to one women who worked there and tried the same opener again, worked great. At first we were thinking "she’s too old" (she was maybe 25), but at that point we stopped caring, "FVCK THAT!!", we approached and pulled it off. Helix wanted to walk up to another girl who worked there, but I’m thinking, "what if they talk to each other?", right after that we both instantly think "WHO CARES?" and burst out laughing. For the next 30 min we went from one approach to another, we just stopped caring if there were 4 girls in the group or if they were all older than us. It had just become fun to see reactions. We did 10 approaches total that day, neither of us had done that much in one day in our whole lives.
AND THAT’S WHAT SARGING IS ALL ABOUT!!!!

TO EVERYONE WHO IS STILL SITTING AT THEIR COMPUTERS OR IS STILL SCARED TO APPROACH STRANGERS, GET OUT THERE AND SARGE!! FIELD WORK REALLY IS WHERE MOST OF YOUR GROWTH CAN HAPPEN. WE MADE MORE OF A BREAKTHROUGH IN A FEW HOURS THEN WE COULD HAVE MADE READING 1000 POSTS ON THIS SITE. STOP CARING WHAT THEY WILL THINK OF YOU, GET OUT THERE AND HAVE FUN!

Thats what I love to hear, to many KBJ's on here man
I love guys who post FR's
keep doing your thang
and F age man, if she is 18 plus thats all that matters
 

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I was doing pretty much the same thing on Friday night as part of my boot camp. Never knew that it actually had a name! You can read about my escapades in my boot camp diary, but needless to say it was easier as I went on.

My two friends were in absolute awe. I was duely congratulated at the end of the evening (and I should think so too! lol)
 

Helix

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feels good

if felt great to get out and actually do something... It was a great rush to grab the courage and approach strangers i dont know. Im definitely looking forward to sarging with Phantom again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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