"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First time out on the dance floor. Were you bad?

Bigg Boss

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Went to the club for the first time yesterday night. I just tried to follow the girls ass. It was (and kinda still is) difficult because they would change what they were doing like every 10 seconds. Am I suppose to follow them? I'm not sure how bad I was doing. I don't really know other people's reactions (they were always gathering around and watching). I prolly was kinda stiff.

I did concentrate on having a good time though. When a song came on that I was feelin I would bump to it like I didn't care what no one else thought. It's just the part where I'm dancing with a chick that I'm still unsure about. I like doing though and I will be going back (better prepared cuz this time I went in alone and left alone :mad: )


All I know is I want to get better, I just dont know how to practice. Just stay in my room and practice different ways to move to the same beat?

Oh yeah and what do you do when they just start shakin their ass? Do you just stand there? Cuz every time they did it on me I started humpin they ass lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Modro

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Man i am not good at dancing, but you just gotta be uncaring have fun and watch others for basic tips and to not give a **** :)
 

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First time out on the dance floor. Were you bad?

HELL NO.:cool:
 

Berlex

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a couple shots of tequila will make anyone a good dancer
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Comeback Kid

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I feel confident about most of the things I do...

...dancing is certainly not one of them. :(

I am HORRIBLE at dancing. I am athletic (lift and run often), but I can't even bend my knees on the dance floor due to nerves. I get self-conscious when I'm dancing and it all gets into my head. I look like Drago when I'm on a dance floor - muscular but stiff as a board. :yes:
 
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Obsidian

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it took me a while to get to the ultra-super-confident point that I'm at now (i'm still not real great at rave dancing, tho). You just have to get better over time. The fact that you actually got out there and danced with a chick when it was your first time on the dance floor is a good sign.

Just try to watch what other guys do and imitate them. Also, be ready at all times to smile back or laugh at yourself if someone looks at you funny or makes fun of you.

Then you might also think about trying to get involved in some local swing dance or salsa clubs. If you look around on the internet, you can probably find a place that gives free or cheap lessons in swing. You can adapt a lot of those moves to other types of beats.
 

danielzxc

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Lol, yeah I was fkkn hopeless. A chick led me out to the floor and I really didn't wanna, 'cos I knew I would be bad (BAD), but I didn't wanna let go of her either. My friends saw me and later were teasing me about it. Lol, it took me months to live it down. BUT I practised my ass off for weeks and weeks, and the next time on the floor, I was actually pretty good. These days, it's been a couple of years since I've danced. I would be back to pretty bad if I tried again, but no way could I be as bad as that first time.
 

suikeisuru

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I have no idea how I rank on dancing but it probably is real low. As I told my girl last night, 'everyone can dance but most of us are horrible at it'. Dancing is a good oppurtunity to build up kino and aside from that, just move your body to the music. Just make sure your legs, arms and head are doing something other than staying still. Just don't come off as a stiff.
 
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