Been reading on this forum a while and learned alot of what you fellow DJers have accomplished and the setbacks and how you guys overcame most of these setbacks. I'm still a complete a newbie but I'd like to share my interaction. Long story short , got in trouble with the law nothing major. Was offered diversion. Met with the community justice social worker. Pretty cute HB. Gave me an option of giving a charitable donation or doing community hours, i countered back with offering to take her out to dinner and calling it even . She smiled and laughed if off. My lawyer was there to and I guess it wasn't appropriate to say such a thing, but I just wanted to show my playfulness. I'll be heading back to court in a month, should I drop by her office chat her up and then ask her to exchange numbers for a drink rendez vous? Off course i will ensure to do this without anyone else being there.
Any construction feedback would be appreciated
Not long ago a mentor fully unplugged me. All interest in women just collapsed on me. Not from any bitterness at all. In fact I appreciated women more because I really understood things way down deep in me.
I put them out of my mind except when on this forum. I have a real good FWB but even she no longer triggers that deeper list in me.
To a degree I had been unplugging a little at a time over the past few years but those feminine impulses and concepts were still in me.
There’s also some things that are something like muscle memory. You get into a situation and that first impulse is to act in a certain way based on emotional responses. This is a hold over in your neuro pathways. A programmed response that was held in place by a false belief system. But it gets much easier to self evaluate and correct. Now I see them just as they enter my mind and dismiss them.
So don’t be surprised if you get some downtime that causes some introspection. It’s heathy. There’s a lot of rewiring to do. There’s little things that are in place and you don’t see them, until you see them. The stuff comes off in layers.
Women are not a be all or end all to a damn thing. If fact, quite the opposite. They are amusing. She is required to amuse me to be honest. Most are not.
There’s guys here that lament over psychological disorders and thing these demons and poltergeists are everywhere. Just keep your head about you and spank them when they need it and those things go away.
