First Time couldn't keep it up

[JoeJoe86]

So I'm a 24 year old who has never really had sex before, and have had a couple bad experiences.

So last Saturday I went out with this really hot girl who I had met online, she looked exactly like her pictures which is always a bonus. We went to a tequila bar in my city to get drinks. As you can guess I'm a pretty shy guy, but we really hit it off, and I really had no problem talking to her. She seems really nervous at the beginning of the date but after a couple hours and quite a bit of tequila we both loosened up and I knew she was into me. We left, and I hailed her a cab, she asked me if I wanted to go home with her, so of course I got in with her. When we got back to her place we made out a bit and i started fingering her, when she was ready and begging me to put it in, I was at half mast and could get it all the way up, we kept trying for an hour but no dice. She didn't seem to care that much and we made out when she dropped me off at the train the next morning.

We texted a lot over the next couple day and I went out with her again last night. We went to dinner and back to her place afterwards, this time I was able to get it in half mast but couldn't get it up all the way, we weren't at it that long, she had to wake at 5 and it was well after 1 in the morning so we kinda gave up and went to sleep. We made out for a long time when she dropped me off, but never really talked about what happened.

I'm leaving the country for about a week so I won't see her again for a while. I get really strong IOI from this girl and I know she really likes me, but I feel like I'm not going to get too many more chances. I chalked the first time up to the booze, but didn't have the same excuse the second time.

This same thing happened to me before with another girl two years ago, we went out to a bar, got wasted, I went home with her and couldn't keep it up long enough to get it in. We went out again a couple weeks later and this time I was up long enough to have sex with her for about 5 minutes before we changed positions and I lost it. I probably could have seen her again but was embarrassed and never pursued.

I know its nothing physical (never a problem when its just me) and all in my head and thinking about it makes it worse, but has anybody had this happen to them and have any advise? It sucks to be so close and have some crap like this come up.

 

[foreverAFC]

its ok, just explain to her that you are not experienced and that you are just nervous. the sex will be better once you are really comfortable around the other person and have known them for a bit.

 

[Renegade357]

Times have changed. When I was your age I was like the damn energizer bunny. That was then, I'm in my mid-30s now and have finally started to slow down A LITTLE BIT.. There are too many unhealthy distractions for young men. Ease up on McNuggets and the porno champ. Then if she lets you take it slow and try again. You'll figure it out.

 

[seethehoop]

Last thing you need to do is make a deal out of this. I would recommend going down also, and get her to return the favour. I would also use viagra if it became an issue for me.

Try not masterbating for a week or two, you may find that you can keep things up. I can go all night if I dont self serve for a a week or so.

 

[Albatross953]

It is all in your head so relax and concentrate on getting her off. I agree go down on her and do the job right. When you're ready and she's still ultra sensitive just run the tip up and down her without penetrating. Then just give her the tip. Use your thumb for backing if you have to. Remember all her nerves are in the first inch or so anyway. make it a game like you're teasing her. And relax. I bet the little guy comes around quick.
And yeah cut out the porn.