"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First time clubbing

Oni

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gonna go clubbing for the first time soon. im not really a dancing type of person. im afraid ima make a fool of myself. adivce? :(
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Duke

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If you are worried about it you probably won't succeed. It's not all about dancing anyways. Most people stand around. So get your confidence up and work with what you are good at. Practice makes perfect and perfect builds confidence.
 

pingpongz

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no hands in pockets...

Dont move your hips too much its gay and turns women off.. instead concentrate on the shoulders and arm movements... The main thing is to make sure you're smiling and having a good time and girls will notice. Just follow the beat.

Alcohol helps alot.
 

DoctorLW

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Just dance how ever you want and act like you are having fun. That's really all that matters. You will naturally get better by learning when to expect a change in the BPM, etc.
 

Gamble

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as long as you're having fun and demonstrating a great social proof :) don't be afc and stand with your drink guarding your chest, let it slideeeee
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

DonJoseCantosie

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Also...don't be worried about conveying social proof. Sure, its good to have but not needed. If ur approaching, thats automatically social proof as most guys don't approach much at the club, the right way ;-). Only some do.
 
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