First time at club tonight

[cablecow15]

It went ok , It didnt dawn on me until I got there that i cant dance , so I scouted for a good bit and finally jumped it , i felt really out of place , im trying to go tomorrow , but will make a big effort to learn some dance moves before i go

I will say i held eye contact with a few cuties , and iT felt good not immediately looking away (which has been hard to overcome)

also been reading on women's body language , it feels a lot different getting out now , like i can speak the language better.

 

[backbreaker]

my father is like the biggest michael jackson fan on the face of the planet. well not really but he's a huge MJ fan. has every record knows eveyr song, watches every video.

so me growing up, wanting to mimic everything my dad does i took a big liking to MJ myself.

my dad can moonwalk. quite well actually. he taught me how to moon walk when i was real real little like 5 years old. one day, my dad has had a few drinks, i am like 5 years old and he puts on the michael jackson album and i just get on one and i grab the broom from the kitchen, i put my mom's little shower cap on my head and got on the couch and jumped off of and started dancing and singing it was the cutiest / funnist **** on the face of the earth. i had my dad crying laughing but i was working it ti be 5 years old. anyway my mom grabs her cam corder and starts recording me and i didn't think anythin of it then hell iw as 5 but like, literarlly every girl i ever brought home and y mom was home she would be like 'oh you have to see this" and go break out the VHS of me moonwalking in the kitchen with my wife beater and shower cap on lol. that **** is so embarrassing but the girls eat it up.

anyway i say all that to say i always could dance. my little brother the exact same thing. little did i know that my first time in the club and everyone is sitting on the wall i'm like dude WTF get out there and dance. i didn't know how much being able to dance would help me out as a grown man. i mean i'm not moonwalking on the dance stage or antyiung but i am usually one of the better dancers on the floor.

like if you can dance the club scene is 5x easier because you don't have to just cold approach women. women see you dancing and go dance with you bam you have an in right there.

 

[cablecow15]

i used to do the same thing as a kid , but it was with air guitar and rock music , witch is not going to helpo me now lol , ive been looking at vids on youtube , the hardest thing for me is getting in the rythm

 

[CostaDeSol]

i used to do the same thing as a kid , but it was with air guitar and rock music , witch is not going to helpo me now lol , ive been looking at vids on youtube , the hardest thing for me is getting in the rythm

go to clubs/parties and practice, practice, practice.

For about 8 years, I was scared $hitless of the dance floor. In grade school, i went to a total of 2 dances.

But then in college i made a friend who would drag me to clubs and parties. I would follow him and after about a year and a half of going out, I became VERY comfortable dancing.

Now i can go and dance to any type of music without being embarrassed. Am I the best dancer? no, but it did open up the opportunity to initiate kino with a huge number of girls.

It just takes practice. And you need to practice at the dance floor where you can actually test your moves on girls. And it WILL be worth it.

 

[cablecow15]

Ill do my best , when i got there I was sure i wouldn't touch the dance floor , but after a while i made it out there with a friend , felt awkward , but if i hadn't gone through with it id be ashamed Ima try to push the envelope a little each time i go

 

[Night-hawk]

I usually don't go on the dance floor unless I already have pulled a girl to it. Then, dance moves are bascially just grinding around, giving her spins, lifting her in the air, dry humping. If you are on the dancefloor just have fun with it.

 

[cablecow15]

also another question ,what time of night is best ? i was there from 9 to 12ish , had to get up the next morning ,

I am assuming the women get more bold and excited the later the night goes on ?

 

[Who Dares Win]

The best moment at least where I go is between 12 and 2 and I will explain you why.

the best girl to guy ration happens early, so going after 2 or 3 will lead you to a sausage fest where all the desperate guys left will be approaching any whale or uglys possible and c0ckblock each other or starting fights.
In that moment that would make the place even less comfortable, uglys playing hard to get,competition and cuties that already left or are already taken.

However dont go too early either,the place will be kinda empty and you will find yourself getting bored in a corner and show to others coming how bored you are, if you approach any girl with the club empty all the other girls will see it either if she reject you or you get her, then u risk to become either a loser or a player(not always a great thing as they say in this site) in their mind.
However this moment is great if you have a high success ration and you see some girl you like, you will have her all night.
You can approach also if you already decided to change venue later.


Regarding the preparation,some pre party with friends in a house will put you all in the right mood and that will really help so do it, avoid going there with shy or grumpy guys, remember the club is the kingdom of the uninibhited guido not of the mit engineer, act accordingly.

And to answer your last question, the answer is no women later on gets only more entitled and annoyed from all the uncompetent guys doing lame approaches on them.

If you have any more question feel free to ask, I started as a pathetic noob and now I can even approach group of girl sitting at table with decent success rate,it would help me as well to know that all the suffering
and frustration I experiences at least will help someone else too.

 

[CostaDeSol]

also another question ,what time of night is best ? i was there from 9 to 12ish , had to get up the next morning ,

I am assuming the women get more bold and excited the later the night goes on ?

I'm only writing this because this is how i experienced clubs the last times i went.


any time before 10 is too early unless all you want to do is talk with the bartenders.

10-11 is the time when every shows up.

i think 11-12 is prime time. People have a few drinks in them, and most girls will be receptive to advances.

After 12, is when the guys that engaged girls earlier will try to seal the deal with them. If you get here around this time you run the risk of the hot chicks being taken.

I would say get their at 10:30-11, and immediately engage as many girls as you can.

 

[pyros]

how do you talk to girls music too loud

Hiya.


I mean, I dont feel very comfortable when I am in a club because I really dont like them (expensive, music too loud, women's defenses high etc.), but since my buddies go to them every weekend there I go.

A) There are some clubs where the music is so loud that I cant almost talk to my friends, so how am I supose to talk to girls?

B) whay do yo say to girls there? how you start conversation?

I did it sometimes, but when I did, I did not even think about what to say, I was feeling good and I just aproached them, but if I think: oh, I'd like to talk to that girl, I just cant find anything to say, so whay do you say?



Thanks.:cheer:

 

[Chamber36]

Jeez.... The amount of analysis you guys are putting into this.

If you can't dance then you obviously need to go to a club where the music is better and causes you to dance. I never dance unless I like the music.

Pre-drinking is good in my opinion because it lowers inhibitions. I don't think it's bad to go out drunk every now and then to just let loose but you still have to be able to enjoy yourself sober.

When the music is too loud that's a perfect opportunity to talk into a girl's ear and kino. Also it's a good excuse to use if you want to extract and isolate a girl. You can also just communicate only through body-language (usually on the dancefloor), and do some flirtation. Eye-contact, winking, touching, ass squeezing, giving thumbs up, ass slapping, or just plain dancing, they're all good.

Listen, imo you can get as drunk as you want as long as you dont sacrifice your own dignity by overcomplimenting or pursuing an unattainable girl.

What happens to me when I go passed a certain drunkenness threshhold suddenly a lot of girls are much more attracted to me. I guess the main jist of what I'm saying is that if you don't like the music you should get more drunk. Of course you should take my advice at your own risk. It could backfire.

When you start a conversation, you can do anything you want. You can say "hi". You can ask where the girl's from, where her friends are, where she's from, what work she does, what she likes to drink, whatever.

The most important thing is not to take yourself too seriously. If a girl is interesting to you, then there's nothing wrong with expressing that interest. It's called the direct approach. If there's something you want to know about a girl: ask it.

If you can't think of a question to ask, you have to THINK HARDER and try to relate to them. Of course you have to stay within the masculine point of view, but you must show understanding for the feminine point of view. Even if it's in the form of satire.

 

[Who Dares Win]

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[cablecow15]

Jeez.... The amount of analysis you guys are putting into this.

If you can't dance then you obviously need to go to a club where the music is better and causes you to dance. I never dance unless I like the music.

Pre-drinking is good in my opinion because it lowers inhibitions. I don't think it's bad to go out drunk every now and then to just let loose but you still have to be able to enjoy yourself sober.

When the music is too loud that's a perfect opportunity to talk into a girl's ear and kino. Also it's a good excuse to use if you want to extract and isolate a girl. You can also just communicate only through body-language (usually on the dancefloor), and do some flirtation. Eye-contact, winking, touching, ass squeezing, giving thumbs up, ass slapping, or just plain dancing, they're all good.

Listen, imo you can get as drunk as you want as long as you dont sacrifice your own dignity by overcomplimenting or pursuing an unattainable girl.

What happens to me when I go passed a certain drunkenness threshhold suddenly a lot of girls are much more attracted to me. I guess the main jist of what I'm saying is that if you don't like the music you should get more drunk. Of course you should take my advice at your own risk. It could backfire.

When you start a conversation, you can do anything you want. You can say "hi". You can ask where the girl's from, where her friends are, where she's from, what work she does, what she likes to drink, whatever.

The most important thing is not to take yourself too seriously. If a girl is interesting to you, then there's nothing wrong with expressing that interest. It's called the direct approach. If there's something you want to know about a girl: ask it.

If you can't think of a question to ask, you have to THINK HARDER and try to relate to them. Of course you have to stay within the masculine point of view, but you must show understanding for the feminine point of view. Even if it's in the form of satire.

I didnt get a chance to read this until id already been a few times , but I unknowing ly was already using your advice , the past two times ive gone ive asked girls to dance in their ear , then if it does well on the floor ill take their hand and lead them outside to the smoking section and get their number , and a few times ive even kissed the girls =]

within tha past few times ive gone , ive improved on my success consederably

 

[Gunner26]

Ok the first time I went clubbing I only knew 1 person in the entire group I was going with, I was literally s******g a brick. Didn't think I'd be going anywhere near the dancefloor at first, just wanted to have a good time and get drunk, maybe meet some cool people.

Anyway after 15-20 minutes of getting in the place the people I was with had got drinks and we were sitting in one of the bar rooms casually chilling. As soon as the drinks were done with half the group was buzzing to go dance, I was not.

We went anyway and I had no idea at all what I was doing, I'd never really been into music and so I though dancing was out of the question. I felt real nervy but thought f*** it, I looked around me and saw what everyone else was sort of doing and danced similar to them you could even say I copied them.

Then after a while when a song came on that I knew, I danced out the actions, whilst still doing the same sort of stuff as everyone else. It turned out everybody thought I was a pretty decent dancer, and all I'd done was copy them and throw in some actions to a song.

Dancing isn't anything to be scared of, just remember you're out to have fun so let loose a little. If you do get scared of what to do, just copy everybody else.

Oh and in regards to eye contact, so long as you don't stare and have a smile on your face everything should be fine.

Hope this helps.