"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First She Won't Give Me Time Of Day, Now She's Approaching, What Gives?

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OK, there's this girl who I work with at an organization. At first, she was polite but very distant: she would just say hello and that's it. Now after TWO MONTHS, she is now willing to approach me. She will find a seat next to me when she sees me, but won't talk to me.

Should I try to pursue something with this girl? She is moving at a glacial pace, which annoys me, and which predicts a very slow paced relationship in the future. I'm used to girls ramping up escalation and sexuality with me real quick.

On the other hand, she's gorgeous.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Nah.. Do not. Though, it's cool to have a beautiful woman follow you, elevates your status.
 

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so she sits beside you and your already thinking relationship? haha. This is why guys have problems with women.. They Think too much.

Just fluirt with her. Its your job to make the first move. And hell, a real man makes every move after that as well. Once you accept youself, and Deny rejection, Youll be a stud.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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total_afc said:
Wow, good post: do nothing.
seems like you already made up your mind if you wanna take it further not.
 

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total_afc said:
I was obviously being sarcastic...
it still doesn't change the fact you think it's bad advice.

your gut is telling you to make a move.
 

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Catamo said:
so she sits beside you and your already thinking relationship? haha. This is why guys have problems with women.. They Think too much.
WAY too early to think about a relationship
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Come to think of it, she actually opened me the moment I sat down my very first time at church. I saw her again later that day and chit chatted with her, but she ended the conversation abruptly, so I figured she wasn't interested. So actually, she is re-approaching me now, weeks later after I've been ignoring her. Curious.
 

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girls in church all the time are weirdos, asians always have a flat a$$. I know she sat next to you, but did you get a look at that pooper before she parked it next to you? did the chairs have padding?.....you can always tell a chick with a flat a$$, they can't sit in a non padded chair over thirty minutes without getting up. sounds like you should ignore it till she gives you a stronger sign.
 

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I think your mommy forgot to breastfeed you today. That's because I was hittin' it.

skirtChaser said:
girls in church all the time are weirdos, asians always have a flat a$$. I know she sat next to you, but did you get a look at that pooper before she parked it next to you? did the chairs have padding?.....you can always tell a chick with a flat a$$, they can't sit in a non padded chair over thirty minutes without getting up. sounds like you should ignore it till she gives you a stronger sign.
 

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hey guy I'm being serious here.....have you had a look at her a$$?......if its flat I would get outta there!.....why would you want that?....and glacier speed, I think your anger problem is what is making you afc (total)lol
and don't pm me again you homo! they have forums for all that gay stuff also.
 

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You're psychotic, man.

Sitting next to you is NOT approaching. She may just not feel threatened by you and chooses to sit their for lack of a more comfortable location.

And her being asian? What does that have to do with anything?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well, saw her again and she just walked past me like I didn't exist. Forget it, she's too weird.
 

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It would seem that women at Church are "Relationship Material"

- psychotic never the less.
 

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total_afc said:
OK, there's this girl who I work with at an organization. At first, she was polite but very distant: she would just say hello and that's it. Now after TWO MONTHS, she is now willing to approach me. She will find a seat next to me when she sees me, but won't talk to me.

Should I try to pursue something with this girl? She is moving at a glacial pace, which annoys me, and which predicts a very slow paced relationship in the future. I'm used to girls ramping up escalation and sexuality with me real quick.

On the other hand, she's gorgeous.

PS: Please, feedback from experienced players ONLY. Thanks!
She's begging you to make the first move. She's gorgeous and wants you to be the man and initiate, not only that, she's making it easy on you!

Wake up!

You're obviously doing something very very right.

This is one of those situations that if you revert to AFCism and do not, you will be kicking yourself.
 

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Catamo said:
so she sits beside you and your already thinking relationship? haha. This is why guys have problems with women.. They Think too much.

Just fluirt with her. Its your job to make the first move. And hell, a real man makes every move after that as well. Once you accept youself, and Deny rejection, Youll be a stud.
Great post!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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