first real date ever w/ a special girl.

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ok.. just last night i asked this girl who i knew since we were 8. that was a decade ago when i first met her. we're 18 now.

i never really talked to her that much or whatever, i'm not in the friends' zone with her because i just recently re-acquainted with her. this girl is pretty special to me, and i know this may not be the place to post this...

but since i learned and read and reread the whole dj bible, now it's actually time to apply it.

this is the most special girl i've been with. she's all i really want, i guess.

anyway, what i'm actually looking for here is some advice. see, i've never been on a real "DATE". i've always been like not serious and playful.. doing it just for fun or whatever.

i dont know if i should treat this girl differently because i think she is more special than those other girls.

in other words, i'd like advices on how to go about this certain chick. i kind of wanna be serious with this girl, never thought i'd find one like her.

anyway, thanks for the help in the past and also i thank those who will help me in advance.

 

[Dev]

Im pretty new here myself but I've learned quite a few tricks. Let's give this a try. Veterans, please feel free to contribute.

Well, it is obvious you are nuts about this girl, but what you need to think about is not "winning" her affection, I'm not even sure if this can be done. Either you two are compatible or you aren't. Attraction is there or it isn't. It's nothing personal but some people just aren't ment for each other, regardless of our desires.
Would you go changing yourself to impress this girl? Would you expect her to change for you? Sure, we are all on the path of self-improvement, but you have to do what makes you happy. As far as I'm concerned, you should treat her no different than other girls. However, you do have a good rapport with her and that may prove to help you in the long run.

Hope that helps.

 

[The Rev]

Well if you operate on that level of scarcity, where you "have to get that one girl", you're basically in no man's land.

Just be careful, whatever you do, that you don't come out as desperate, put her on a pedestal, or lose your composure.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

The best mindset to have is not to care of the comsequences of your date and if she rejects you then it is not end of all. Don't try to impress her and don't try to please her - doing otherwise will make you look desperate!

Be in a light and upbeat humorous mood with some seriousness thrown in!! Do a fun activity that promotes interaction.

Remember you are determining whether you want to be with this girl as much as she is determining if she wants to be with you! Don't show her any signs that you must absolutely have her and she is everything you want. If you do, this will reek of desperation!

 

[KiInCollege]

He's already admitted his one-itis and complete inexperience with dating.

My advice is not about this chick. It's about the thread starter. You have much more to learn and should not expect too much from this dating this girl. Just follow the bible's principles and ask more specific questions next time. We cannot help with general appeals asking about your one-itis girl because you think she's "special" and warrants our attention.

Snap out of your one-itis, dammit. Focus on improving your game - your general post about "this one girl" reeks of AFCness. Man-up and take her off the pedestal.

 

[chicksrock]

yea i'm sorry but life isn't fair...
if you feel so seriously about this girl... you reduce your chances of getting her..!!

in my experience:
when i had oneitis for this chick i felt uncomfortable talking to her ..being playful with her...and generally just gaming her...cause i don't know..oneitis does that to you..makes you look like a chump in her eyes....

Then I woke up...and realized there really are plenty of fish in the sea... and besides I am very happy living my bachelor life as well...

this detachment has brought be treamendous more success with women....and also better response from my ex-oneitis..

This is a general case...
you may be gods natural pimp reborn and can get the girl you desire....

CONCLUSION:
with answering your specific question....
1)detach yourself from the girl....
2)game her like a natural pimp daddy you are (if not build your skills up from scratch then apply on target)