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[Desert Rose]

I need some advice on a few issues if you guys could spare me some of your time.

I just ended a 4 yr relationship with my gf from highschool. It was really really rough at first, and then this girl I have had a lot of feelings for and was my first love, contacted me out of the blue and we ended up hanging out at a party. She expressed that she wasn't happy with her current situation (bf) and we talked for a good 3 hours about just life and she ended up kissing me. It was the best night of my life im not gonna lie I've never been able to stand conversation with women period let alone for that long. She's the coolest girl and I know she has feelings for me. I can tell she's pulled back from me a little bit and im sure shes confused about what shes gonna do. Isn't it best to let her be and if she wants to pursue me she will? It is a ****ty situation because it teased the fvck out of me and I forgot about the other ***** I dumped. I really like this girl and I wanna do right by her she deserves it.

 

[joekerr31]

it's fun to watch a monkey play with a loaded gun. unfortunately the ending is often gruesome to watch.

no offense dude, but your post is FILLED with AFC attitudes.

- your first 'love'
- she has a boyfriend but we made out (while in the same breath saying) this girl is amazing

you're young, your hormones and inexperience have the best of you, as with this girl... just go with it. bang her brains out, you'll remember it when your 40 and think back to it as the best time of your life - even if it ultimate ends in a disasterous melodrama 6 months down the road of her keying your car and tossing all your clothes in the street.

 

[DJDamage]

Welcome to the forum Desert Rose.

Now I am going to be harsh with you because on this forum we believe in reality and we don't cuddle other guys.

First of you are an AFC. So you need to read the DJ Bible on this forum to cleanse yourself of your current mindset and understand why you are thinking this way.

As for the girl with the BF.... you don't really know her. She had her own motives and just because she kissed you, it does not mean she will leave her BF. Sometimes all you are going to get is just a kiss, sometimes you will get nothing and other times you can go all the way. The point is that whether you get something or nothing, that shouldn't rattle you and make her to be the centre of your universe and your focus. You are in the centre of your universe and you come first.

You best be careful not to get oneitis for this girl because your headed to the direction pretty fast. Always protect the heart.

 

[ElChoclo]

Just one thing, Mr Rose. Don't worry about doing right by this girl because she deserves it. A woman who has washed your clothes and cooked for you for 30 years might deserve something, but she doesn't deserve anything other than a first rate boning.

Yes it is better to let her pursue you. You can make yourself available to be pursued. Obviously if you got on as well as you claim she wouldn't have another boyfriend right now, so put it in perspective.

 

[Desert Rose]

Very good points I knew this would help a lot. These things dont happen over night obviously and I am not a patient person at all. What do you mean you can make yourself available to be pursued?

 

[Guybrush]

Forget her and move on

Some keywords from your post : High-school, 4 years LTR, she had a boyfriend, amazing girl


You are very young to be engaged in such a long and exclusive relationship. Get over it while you have the chance. How long do you think you can convince yourself to spend the rest of your life with your first serious relationship ? It WOULD have ended ANYWAY.

So USE this chance to get over her. You are a pure AFC who luckily found this forum. Stay tuned, read everything you can, and move on.

Welcome to the forum!

 

[Desert Rose]

yea i know i dont want anything to do with that girl, its this other one that caught my eye