First post, need quick advice for tomorrow

[Fausto]

First off, long time reader of these forums, finally decided to join the fray.

One of the things this site taught me is that I need to completely destroy my preconceived notions. I'm in my early thirties and thought it would be impossible to date girls in their teens and early twenties. Fortunately for me I've opened my mind to a new reality and have been dating girls from 18 to 24.

Younger girls confuse me to an extent, I haven't had anything last over three months over the past year or so, and it hasn't been myself that has cut the ties. Actually the last girl I was with just flat out ignored me and after a week I took the hint (after seeing her for almost three months). (At one point she said I was "perfect" and it was clear to me early on she had self esteem issues, but that's not the subject matter of this post and I wasn't into her at all other than sex so that was easy to get over)

Without boring you all to tears with extensive background information, I've got a third date lined up for tomorrow with a new girl I met almost 2 weeks ago. She's 22, hot, and intelligent. Has a son (and I never bring it up, and she's only brought it up once in passing, I want to make her feel like a little girl, not a mom).

Our first coffee meetup turned into a 6 hour or so "date", spanning three venues. I said each time before we went somewhere else, it's late, we can call it a night or maybe go somewhere else real quick, whatever. A take it or leave it attitude on my part. I consider myself fortunate in that I can vibe really well with women, especially younger girls, I just keep it light and playful and sometimes do and say silly or crazy things. There's almost no down time or lull in conversation, and I have them laughing for most of the night, in a good way, not in a "I'm saying stupid stuff just to make you laugh" way.

Here's the bulk of my question though. Last night we exchanged a few texts as I was setting up the meet with her tomorrow night. After our second date she texts me a few minutes after we parted ways (we were the last to leave the bar) and says she wanted to kiss me (I'm guessing still "high" on the emotions I was giving her). I replied with something witty, not indicating I wanted to ,but definitely not ruling it out.

My gut tells me she's not used to this, but used to guys throwing themselves at her.

Texts from last night contain things like she thinks I'm cute, I'm alot of fun, she thinks about me, etc. Keep in mind I've only seen her twice, I've either successfully disarmed her emotionally that she feels she can tell me these things already, or I should have a red flag warning go up to keep in the back of my mind.

Again, I haven't indicated to her that I like her at all other than saying, yeah we've had some fun the last two times we were out.

Tomorrow, obviously it's on, and I think my chances are really good to bed her if I play my cards right.

How do I play my cards is the question. Obviously I want to keep up the playful and fun personality, but I have this sinking feeling that if I validate her with words in any way (and we've been very "cerebral" in our conversations, talking about some deep stuff) it will break the attraction she has for me.

I'm thinking, keep up the banter and playfulness and just let my actions do the talking. Make moves and escalate physically and the rest will just work itself out.

Am I just over analyzing this? Lol.

 

[Ollie]

Yeah you pretty much hit the nail on the head with the last part. Don't say how you feel, show her. Add in some quasi sexual stuff too I'd say. Only real gripe I have was with your coffee date turned venue hopping date. Instead of your take it or leave it attitude how you did it, I would have lead her more and been like "Well I had a lot of fun. I'm gonna head over to XX now. You want to go or is it past your bedtime? (I know this isn't as leading as saying Let's head over to XX now and not asking her, but I like this way in this case cause of the challenge)." Just a small thing. Your way seems to have worked just as well though. We all have styles of our own.

 

[Telos]

You don't need any advice based on what you just told us. Every itteration of your chain of thought is spot on. The only thing you have left to do is physical escalation. I understand that this is your first post and and an introduction to the rest of the community, so welcome. The only thing that intruigues me has to do with why you invested in such a long post over a scenario that should be of extreme ease for you to execute. Is there anything that you are not telling us?

If I'm reading inbetween the lines correctly I get the feeling that you happen to feel a connection with this chick above any of your priors. I'm guessing she is the first younger girl of that calibre who has shown you this kind of intense interest from the start, and you're starting to feel as if it's too good to be true -- almost as if you just found a 20 carat diamond in the middle of the street. If you can allow me to suggest advice that you didn't explicitly request, I would advise to remind yourself constantly of the fact that she is not such. Re-enforce the idea in your mind that she is nothing special until she proves it to you.

Hot women are not a scarse resource, nor will it be especially difficult for you to aquire one (or many) of similar calibre in the future.

Good luck, you probably won't need it.