"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First post, need advice!!

fornicator1

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I have been lurking here for a while but this is my first post. I am 34 yrs old and just got single again about 6-7 months ago. I have dated and banged a couple chicks off pof and match.com but nothing I would consider girlfriend material.

Last week I meet a girl on match and shes thin and fairly pretty so we txt for a couple days and seem to get along so she agrees to meet for drinks. She lets it be known that her family is going to Florida for a weeklong vacation next week. When I first saw her I was totally surprised because she was much hotter in person than her online pics. Anyone who is on pof or match knows that its usually the opposite. Shes a solid 7 or 8 fake tits tight ass pretty face/hair etc. So Im pretty stoked obviously. I lost my composure due to her hotness and was kinda kissing her ass telling her shes beautiful etc. She ends up back at my place and we make out but she stops me when I try to take her panties off. I played it cool, didn't push the issue much because its our first date and we both fell asleep. We sleep together for a few hours then I drive her back to her car. She tells me she made me stop because its that time of the month. Don't know if that's true or not. She says she definitely wants to see me again.


Now is where I really started making mistakes. I work nights and she works days so we both knew we would be mostly txting until our next date. I continued kissing her ass too much the last day or two via txt. Telling her I haven't had anyone make me feel the way she did etc. I told her I think we would be great together etc. Basically I was letting her know she had me. One txt I sent her said that I think we should have sex before she goes to Florida. She didn't reply to that but we kept txting all day today. Then tonight her last txt before bed she says "we can definitely chat on the phone before I go to Florida" ..out of the blue, I wasn't even pushing to see her again at the time. WTF? chat on the phone??

I NOW know that I was making a mistake by kissing her ass and letting her know that I was very interested. I will definitely hide my interest level on the next hot chick. But is there anyway to turn things around with this one? We get along great, we like the same music etc and she is HOT AS ****! definitely girlfriend material! Is there anyway for me to regain the upper hand without scaring her away? I was just taken off guard by her and I acted foolishly. I am thinking she might friendzone me or something tomorrow. I feel like such an idiot for ruining this. She is a decent girl she wouldn't have came back to my house if she wasn't interested. But I think I might have ruined it.

Thanks for reading this and I appreciate any and all advice I may get!!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sharkbeat

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Err, I think you are too emotionally invested on this one chick. In other words, oneitis.

How to turn things around? Well, I hate to say this, but this is the time for you to pull (limited to no contacts) and develop value. Your value to her has just dropped way low since you showered her with attention when she hasn't deserved that yet.

However, don't be surprised if she comes back from Florida with a new dude.:woo:
 

Kbomb

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
How is a girl w/ fake tatas "girlfriend material" lol. Quite the opposite
seconded :woo:
 

lamobatsman

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Is that not a good sign that she wants to talk on phone instead txt?
 
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