"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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First Post - Just lost the V-Card, now what??

TheRob113

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Hi everyone, this is my first post here, I've lurked for about a year though

I'm 26, and I actually had my first physical encounter of any kind with a woman a few months ago. I didn't even do anything, my friend met this girl online, told her I was a virgin, she offered to hook up with me, he set up the meeting.

Thankfully (and rarely I'd imagine) she was attractive. An hour after we meet, bada bing bada boom.....and it was over.

I thought soon after that a huge weight been lifted off me, now I can meet women without a dark cloud over me. Before that I hadn't done anything physical with a woman in my life, from holding hands on up. No dates, no anything. I actually still haven't kissed before. My 'hookup' didn't want to kiss, since she saves that for her boyfriend (gotta love chick logic!)

Of course, I feel just as crappy as before, I haven't had any success since then, now I feel guilt cause I lost my virginity, and nothing really came of it (excuse the pun)

I guess my question is where do I go from here? I don't know where to start, I'm way too introverted to try the "oh, just get out there and talk to them" techniques. It's scary how bad I am with women


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Assuming your not a troll.

A pity fvck, man thats just downright sad.

You got some serious questions to ask yourself.

1) Why do chicks have this much power over me?
2) Am I truly this worthless?
3) Are women really as scary as what I've conjured up in my mind?
4) Am I an asshat for using the term "V-card"?
 

blueguy

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TheRob,

Kissing and having sex are some of the easiest and most natural things in the world to do. You'll realize that a few years later although right now you don't know where to start and think it's just the opposite. Girls are easy. Just don't become their friends. The difficulty lies in maintaining relationships (which is not even that difficult if she's compatible), not in getting girls to have sex with you.
 

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( . )( . ) said:
Assuming your not a troll.

A pity fvck, man thats just downright sad.

You got some serious questions to ask yourself.

1) Why do chicks have this much power over me?
2) Am I truly this worthless?
3) Are women really as scary as what I've conjured up in my mind?
4) Am I an asshat for using the term "V-card"?
Sometimes I wish could just hit the "stop it" button. Maybe click on the "knock that sh!t off" smiley. They need a "ignore this thread" button. *sigh* Alas, these functions aren't available to me.

Hey, congratulations! It only took you 11 years longer than me to realize you had a d!ck in your pants. *high-five*
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