First meeting a few weeks away - how much contact to keep?

[Mystery2017]

2 days ago I matched a girl on Tinder who was in my city a few days ago but has now gone back to her country, couple hours flight away.

She said she will be coming back in 3 months for a trip, so I said if I pass by her country before then I will let her know. She straight away said I should and I could stay at her place and she would show me around. We flirted a bit about us going to a private sauna, naked, for our date. She also replies within minutes even if I take hours. Showing enough interest.

The earliest I could visit is in 3 weeks, and she said she would arrange some days off if I came. How do I play this?

I don't want to or plan to keep messaging her every day, but I also don't want her to lose interest as 3 weeks is a long time. I'm talking to other girls and I'm sure she is to other guys.

 

[JohnChops]

Going to a different country to get laid... Does that sound right in your head? Are you passing through her country anwah or are you going specifically for her?

I would only contact her once a week, more than likely she will text you first.

 

[Mystery2017]

Going to a different country to get laid... Does that sound right in your head? Are you passing through her country anwah or are you going specifically for her?

I would only contact her once a week, more than likely she will text you first.

I would be going specifically for her. But it would be a new country to visit for me, with free accomodation, win win. I am a big traveller. Previously I have gone to Mexico for a 2nd date, as well as Australia for a 3rd date just to see what happens (i live in Europe) so a couple hours flying time to meet a girl is a piece of cake for me.

Yea I think I will wait a couple of days and see if she messages first. Good thing is shes only a 7 so Im really not that bothered, hopefully that will work in my favour.

 

[Bingo-Player]

as a rule of thumb the contact should flow both ways and be natural

if you find yourself forcing topics of conversation the relationship will fizzle out quickly

 

[SmooveMooves]

3:1 ratio.

Since this is a huge commitment --Going to another country just for pûssy -- you need to be sure she has very high interest. Wouldn't it suck to fly way to Mexico to have her ignore your phonecalls and flake.

She should be initiating the majority of the time. You should be able to get a feel and say to yourself 'okay, it's been a while, I'll initiate today for once.'

Also I would have a backup plan for that trip. I would also think about it a little more.

 

[Poon King]

Too much focus on this ONE woman in my opinion.

Remember that if you are worrying she might lose interest then you probably already lost the game. Not because she really will lose interest, BUT because you have place so much importance on the outcome with this ONE woman. Until you've had sex, no woman should be take all that seriously and there should be minimal emotional investment by you if any.

I would go silent until the week before the trip. Let her reach out if she wants to "chat". Chatting is for women anyway. Then I would reach out to flirt and confirm about a week before the trip. Women don't lose interest that easily unless they never had much to begin with. I know this from experience.