First Impressions

[Venusian Artist]

First Impressions

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Personally, I believe that making a good first impression puts you already half way to getting the girl. I believe, that according to your personality, the guys who are hitting on her will be slotting into different groups:


Nice Guys -

. Useful
. Possible LTR partner (Courtship, AHH!)
. Can raise my self esteem


Friendly Guys -

. Possible friendship
. Possible LTR partner


Good Men -

. Possible sexual relationships
. Possible LTR partner
. Possible any sort of relationship partner


Bad Boys -

. Possible sexual relationships


There is a difference between "nice guys" and "good men"...

These impressions that are created of you, are made in just the first few minutes upon meeting you. That's right, it doesn't take long for her to slot you into your place, and of course, you want to be slotted into one of the last two (if you are pursueing relationships)... In my opinion being a good man opposed to a bad boy stays. This way you can lead the relationship where it wants to go, if you meet someone truly amazing, then you still have the power to move it on.

The importance of what slot you are put into can be somewhat game ruining, especially if you have been macking on a girl you started off being a "nice guy" to, as other sorts of behaviour (e.g. C+F) will appear FAKE, and will creep her out. Many a times, it is best to start fresh if this happens, it is easier to start fresh than to repair things which have already gone wrong.


In case you haven't heard of M3, this is it:

Attraction -> Comfort/Rapport -> Seduction

In that order, according to Mystery this is the best way to go, and I have adapted the same mind-frame over time.

But to be slotted into a GOOD slot, puts you in control, you are seen as a possible partner for WHATEVER reasons, which means that you are free to lead things where you want them to go. As you keep your game face on, her opinion of you will rise further-more.

So try hard to get the edge and be slotted into a strong position at the very start, I have real horror stories of when I started using too much comfort in the very beginning stage of meeting a girl.

Hope you've found this helpful,
Venusian Artist :woo:

 

[EdHunter]

Why is too much rapport bad?
Does it kill the element of mystery, or something?

 

[Venusian Artist]

Why is too much rapport bad?
Does it kill the element of mystery, or something?

Hey Ed... It isn't so much rapport, but comfort, like being too friendly early on, as you can slip into the dreaded 'LJBF' zone... Let me re-phrase that part...