First Impression

[Klugscheisser]

Hi there

My brother is studying psychology at the university of Zurich. Yesterday, he told me an interesting fact about the human behavior:

If you meet a person for the first time, you need 2 seconds to get an impression of that person. (How interesting, succesful etc. this person is, based on the behavior, clothing etc.) After that, you've got 90 seconds to fix that first impression, but if a person thinks that you're a jerk, that impression will never disappear, dosen't matter what you do or say.

So let's give an example: If you know a women for about 3 months, and you've seen her at least once a week, but you never talked more than "Hi" or "How are you" and that other small talk-bull****, she probably thinks that you are a very boring person, cause you're not as talkative/friendly as other persons. Is there even a chance to persuade her that you're the most interesting person she has ever met in her life?

Has anyone of you ever managed to "fix a bad first impression"? Just wondering whether this is true or not.

Regards,
me

 

[MisterMcGee]

Has anyone of you ever managed to "fix a bad first impression"?

Hell.
Yes.

 

[Mr Autobahn]

I think women are notorious for changing their minds. However, you never, ever want to get into the LJBF zone because it will be very hard to get out of.

 

[slaog]

It's not that they change their mind. First impressions are generally correct.


You can tell alot about a person just by looking at them and how they behave, speak etc. This is because people are good at reading body language etc.


First impressions are not 100% accurate though. For example if you met somebody just after a death in the family that would be taken into account.


So IMO you can easily change somebody's impression of you. I've done it in the past too and I've been wrong about many people but generally first impressions are fairly accurate.