"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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First field report, why do I allways find the psychos??

Deus

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LOL. that's the best word to describe last night.

Me and 3 mate's went to the regular 'lil club in our town, on the assumption that it would be 2 for 1 in the bar all night, and free entry.

Heh, atleast it was free entry.

For the first time in a LONG time, there was alot of people we didn't know there, ALOT of 18 year olds, having their first visit to the club. about 60% of them were girls.

T'was a nice night, though the music was kinda worthless. too much POP for me, but from time to time there was something with a decent base, which lead to us heading to the dancefloor and dominating it. I also had to break up a fight that erupted near we were dancing. Ie, they crashed into my back as they fought, and that pissed me off, so my mate got the bouncer whilst I positioned myself smack in the middle of it and stopped them from getting at eachother. (we know the owners, the bouncers and the girls working the bar, so we tend to help out from time to time.

Anyways, plenty of nice girls around, though not much in my tastes (too young!).

Roughly 00.00 I headed outside for a smoke, and I met some more people I know. As I was talking to one of them, I felt something "poking" me on my shoulders. hard. So I got annoyed and turned around. It was just a cutie who was adjusting her hair. She appologised, so I started teasing her a bit about it (including KINO, holding a hand on her neck, shoulders as I was talking to her, and fiddling with her hair). We talked for some 10 minutes, then I headed back inside again.

She found me again about an hour later (the place was CROWDED). She and a friend of hers came and sat down next to me (I was waiting for a mate, getting some more beer). We talked a bit more, she was rubbing her leg against mine for some reason, and KINOing me, *shrugs* So I gave back in the same manner. They complained that it was impossible to get a drink due to the bar being crowded, so I took some money from them (there's no way in HELL that I'll pay for a girls drink.) and walked through the crowd, stopping about 2 rows from the bar, made eyecontact with one of the gals working the bar, and she gave me what I wanted.

The girl and her friend was kinda impressed by this show of alpha male style, (and they had seen me break up the fight earlier).

Anyways, they headed for the bathroom, but before they left, she gave me a kiss and said "don't move, we'll be right back". They walked off to the cue to the bathroom, and I got up and headed to the dancefloor, cus a good song just came on.

when they were done in the bathroom, she came and dragged me away from the dancefloor, so I teased her abit about her not dancing. before I got off the dancefloor, my mate grabbed me and said, "if you screw that up, I'll beat you up. do something..."

We talked, kino'ed some more, then the place closed. So, I offered the girls a place to stay for the night (they were from out of town, and their buss had left). INCREDIEBLY enugh, her friend didn't ****block and agreed. SHE had gotten rather drunk all of a sudden. after we had gotten about halfway, she started crying hysterically, (apparently, her former boyfriend had committed suicide by jumping off a bridge some months earlier, and she was still upset about it). Her friend and I (after MUCH talk about it, and trying to calm her down) got her cellphone off her, and her friend called her dad to come pick them up.

me and my mates hung around (me taking care of the girl whillst the others got some late night food), and before they left, her friend prompted that we exchange numbers.

Then we all headed our different ways.

Thoughts??

I'm not sure that I'll even call her up, I don't want a girl that a)can't handle her liquers, and b)has psychological issues.

BUT all in all, it was a fun night out.

//Deus
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've been out and sarging alot, we usually head out once a week, saturdays more often than not.

I've been suffering from one:itis since a week or so before midsummer, but after ignoring WAY to many chances these two last weeks, I decided, to hell with it, for this weekend.

AND, I hadn't thought about writing a field report, but I read one when I tried to find advice on my current situation (what to do now), and I though, I might as well write one.

I did make out with her, but only for a short while, since they were headed for the toilet. Personal rule of mine, never get in the way of a girl on the way to the girlsroom, you might loose important limbs if they get annoyed...

They annoying part in this, is the fact that after the kissin' part, they drank about 2 ciders each, and became piss drunk. Hence the reason I didn't get 'em home.

AND annoyingly enugh, I only managed to #close her friend since she herself was crying hysterically.

Her friend has sent me a few SMS:es today, to which I've replied in a neutral manner, but I was glad to hear that her friend had calmed down.

I'm considering to ask her friend, to ask girl A, if it's okay for her to send me her number, or, if she could just give her my number (though she'd be in controll then, which I understand is a big No-No??)

Atleast, I believe the girl I was interested in, is getting rid of her current BF, since he hung up on her when they'd missed their buss and needed a ride home, she was PISSED, both of 'em were. (not that I care, since she appeared bloody interested in me, but I'm not fond of stealing other peoples GFs).

Does anyone else feel pathetic when doing the "*Pat*, *pat*, there, there" -routine with the arms around a crying girl??

//Deus
 
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