Last night I went on a date for the first time with this girl. We were introduced through my friend who has been dating her friend. I wanted to go out with just her but my friends insisted we go on a double date. This was very hard for me to talk to her and get to know her. I think I may have said like 15 words to her the hole night. If it would have just been the two of us things would have gone much smoother. What I need to know is are my chances over with her? If not what can I do.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
First Date
- Thread starter Beach
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
Have you read the DJ bible?? im guessing you havent, go download it you nOoB!
"What I need to know is are my chances over with her? If not what can I do."
how about asking her for a date just the two of you? simple answer. You have to learn not to be such a *****.
"What I need to know is are my chances over with her? If not what can I do."
how about asking her for a date just the two of you? simple answer. You have to learn not to be such a *****.
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Alpha_Animal
Don Juan
No, you haven't messed up yet because you didn't say anything bad. Never go on double dates is my advise. Just ask her for a dasste for just the 2 of you.
Just to start out i am a very outgoing person i could talk to a stranger for hours but i didnt talk to her that much because the people i went with is like my best friend and we were just constantly joking around, at dinnner I talked my ass off. Just not directly to her. Then at the mall my buddy and I were talking to a bunch of people we ran into. And when we got back with them I was still talking just still not directly to her. After that we went back to my buddys house to watch a movie. We all sat on the couch together and no one really talked at all. We were interested in the movie. After that they had to leave. Right before they left we talked a bit she said she wanted to see me again but i just feel like she thinks i have no interest in her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Michael Chief
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Double dates work great for ME because im usually the dominant male in the situation.
However, this makes it bad for my fellow male friend haha
Basically, everything's a competition. If you were dominant over your friend, everything wouldve gone just fine for you.
Accept reality and realize that life isn't fair, and neither are double dates. At least you know what to do NEXT time, right?
I dont think you are in a good frame of mind. Instead of thinkin if you have a chance with her, how about judging whether or not she has a chance with you?
However, this makes it bad for my fellow male friend haha
Basically, everything's a competition. If you were dominant over your friend, everything wouldve gone just fine for you.
Accept reality and realize that life isn't fair, and neither are double dates. At least you know what to do NEXT time, right?
I dont think you are in a good frame of mind. Instead of thinkin if you have a chance with her, how about judging whether or not she has a chance with you?
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
thus far, you have displayed social proof up the ASS by having fun and not inviting her: namely, you had fun and didn't suck up and act wussy around her. you actually have it perfectly set up for next time, she will be aching to hang out with you.
but when you guys hang out, remember to fly solo with her, no dd's.
stay cool, and have fun
but when you guys hang out, remember to fly solo with her, no dd's.
stay cool, and have fun
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Mr. D, as usual, U have pretty much said it all. Cheers!:cheer:
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
im just that good
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.