"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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First date with girls from the internet.

AlmostThere!

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When I meet girls in social settings and then go out with them on a date at a later time, I'm much more relaxed and kino a lot.

But when I meet a girl from the net, our first "date" is more like just having a conversation. I make them laugh but I usually do the whole coffee or lunch date which doesn't offer much opportunity for physical contact.

And when the date is over, it feels weird (for me) to kiss them.

I don't know what it is about meeting girls from the net (I don't use dating websites)... should I be just as forward with a chick as if I met her in the club, or is playing it safe and just seeing each other in person is okay?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AlmostThere! said:
When I meet girls in social settings and then go out with them on a date at a later time, I'm much more relaxed and kino a lot.

But when I meet a girl from the net, our first "date" is more like just having a conversation. I make them laugh but I usually do the whole coffee or lunch date which doesn't offer much opportunity for physical contact.

And when the date is over, it feels weird (for me) to kiss them.

I don't know what it is about meeting girls from the net (I don't use dating websites)... should I be just as forward with a chick as if I met her in the club, or is playing it safe and just seeing each other in person is okay?

Making women feel attracted to you is the same everywhere.


When meeting off the internet theres alot more nerves involved and if 2 people are nervous it makes things worse. Its up to you to be sexual and behave like you normally do. If you're not nervous and being confident it'll make the girl less nervous and feel better about you.


Playing safe = AFC.
 

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slaog said:
Making women feel attracted to you is the same everywhere.


When meeting off the internet theres alot more nerves involved and if 2 people are nervous it makes things worse. Its up to you to be sexual and behave like you normally do. If you're not nervous and being confident it'll make the girl less nervous and feel better about you.


Playing safe = AFC.
Okay. I will let my sexual beast (or at least show her I'm sexual) when I meet her to avoid any potential FZ.
 

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I've met quite a few women online... and I'll tell you right now, the best online date I've had so far, was the one where I did the MOST amount of kino. Of course, you get to talk to the person a few times via email/phone before you actually meet, so there's a little more rapport.

I had a few awkward dates, that were terrible.

But just this past Sunday, I had the best date ever, both online and non-online. I pretty much had established C+F before the actual meet-up, so it was easy to transition to kino for the date.

Again, don't let opportunities slide just because it's an online date.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I had a very interesting online dating experience recently, whose details I won't go into depth, but more or less I'm believing now I'd rather meet people through my day-to-day life. We spend enough time online as it is, and I'd like to get to know someone's real energy, not their fictionalized or filtered online personas.

Biggest suggestion from my personal experience online dating: use online meeting places to setup a physical encounter as soon as possible. Don't waste time making a new chat partner -- or phone partner -- because it can be a let down if you don't connect to them physically (ie, find them attractive). There is a balance between the physical and mental, both are important, but all of your energy in either will likely not last long. Online dating can be great connecting with a mind -- but is the mental compatibility matched by physical?
 
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