First date with girl. She wanted to have sex? Dropped her off instead.

[seth03]

I went out on a first date with a girl last saturday night. She is hot as hell, half asian half brazilian, 28 yrs old, an ex-go go dancer, etc. We met up 15 min past midnight (i was busy sat night with a family party so thats the earliest I was able to make it). That meant I had 1 hour and 45 minutes to get something done (kiss/makeout/demonstrate value/good game,etc) with this girl before the bars closed at 2 a.m.

We had 3 drinks total. Within an hour, I laid down the first kiss. I was doing some heavy kino (palming/grabbing her ass for extended periods of time, standing up very close to her stroking her hair and face with both her arms around my waist, etc). My game was tight as ****...probably the best game I ever spit to a girl. I felt like michael jordan in his prime for those 2 hours.

We leave the bar and im walking to her car (or so I thought). We walk 3 blocks in the direction of my car, which is where I thought she parked. After 3 blocks I was like....so where did you park again? She was like....oh...I parked about 3 blocks away, we passed our car a few minutes ago, I got a spot right near the bar. Immediately, I had a million thoughts running through my head. I did not expect this girl to want a one night stand, it wasnt something I was prepared for. If anything I usually go after sex at the 2nd date at the earliest (when it comes to girls I am interested in ****ing/seeing for at least a few months), and leave the first date for landing the first kiss/makeout session, etc.

I get into my car, and decide that I should just take what I've got, and drop her off, instead of awkwardly being like.........so wanna come back to my place? (It would have been awkward for me since i just wasnt expecting or planning for that to happen at all). She said she had fun, would call me sometime, we both kissed a bunch, and that was that.

I know girls will definitely lose interest if you do not land a first kiss on the first date..........but will they lose interest if you do not bang them on the first date, if they show subtle signals that they want to bang? Or am I cool? I think everything should be cool since I demonstrated I had balls by kissing her and grabbin her ass the whole time....but not sure.

 

[acw]

Shouldn't be a problem.

If anything it will raise your Value Level Higher. A Hot Chick who is rarely turned down...will definately become more intrigued.

How old is this HB?

Where did you meet her?

 

[horaholic]

You should have hit it while you had the chance. She may or may not be down to try again. Dont waste opportunities.

 

[seth03]

You should have hit it while you had the chance. She may or may not be down to try again. Dont waste opportunities.

Really? Crap. Shes 28, met her at a bar.

 

[jonwon]

"But will they lose interest if you do not bang them on the first date, if they show subtle signals that they want to bang"?

Yes they will.

 

[DMSR76]

"But will they lose interest if you do not bang them on the first date, if they show subtle signals that they want to bang"?

Yes they will.

I agree. A lot of attractive women really don't take rejection very well because they're not at all used to it.


OP, if she gives you buying signals again, I suggest you take advantage.

 

[seth03]

This is her response after I asked to hang out this week. Does it sound enthusiastic enough....or does it sound like she might flake?


Lol. Youre funny. Yeah I’d love to hang out again, just not sure when but I will let you know. I have work tomorrow and I’m going sky diving on Wednesday. Thursday will be kinda hectic so maybe a Friday or Saturday, but I can’t promise anything yet. I’ll definitely let you know when I can. Just let me know if you free also but if your friends want to hang out or something go ahead and do that, I can always wait and we can hang out some other day. I’m just here anyways. Don’t worry I’m not going anywhere

Well I hope your week is starting pretty good.

Laters!

 

[Gangster Of Love]

This is her response after I asked to hang out this week. Does it sound enthusiastic enough....or does it sound like she might flake?


Lol. Youre funny. Yeah I’d love to hang out again, just not sure when but I will let you know. I have work tomorrow and I’m going sky diving on Wednesday. Thursday will be kinda hectic so maybe a Friday or Saturday, but I can’t promise anything yet. I’ll definitely let you know when I can. Just let me know if you free also but if your friends want to hang out or something go ahead and do that, I can always wait and we can hang out some other day. I’m just here anyways. Don’t worry I’m not going anywhere

Well I hope your week is starting pretty good.

Laters!

Yeah, that response pretty much seals your faith. She is already telling you how she can take you or leave you, in this instance, leave you. She is already giving herself the option to flake by saying "so maybe a Friday or Saturday, but I can't promise anything yet." When a broad is interested, she becomes very accomodating, not difficult.

Back to your original post. Women will want you more and welcome the challenge, but mostly if you went out on a "date", or is someone you are pursuing. Women who you meet at bars or clubs, will just move on to the next guy, bucause at that point, she doesn't really know you. To her, you rejected her and by now is somewhat embarrased and rather not feel judeged by you, even if you are really into her, she doesn't know that.

Moral of the story: If on a date with a woman who's already interested in you and vice versa, no need to rush the bang. With a club girl/party girl who just wants to have fun, and is there for the moment, you bang her when opportunity knocks. If you let it slip, you usually don't get a second chance.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

This is her response after I asked to hang out this week. Does it sound enthusiastic enough....or does it sound like she might flake?


Lol. Youre funny. Yeah I’d love to hang out again, just not sure when but I will let you know. I have work tomorrow and I’m going sky diving on Wednesday. Thursday will be kinda hectic so maybe a Friday or Saturday, but I can’t promise anything yet. I’ll definitely let you know when I can. Just let me know if you free also but if your friends want to hang out or something go ahead and do that, I can always wait and we can hang out some other day. I’m just here anyways. Don’t worry I’m not going anywhere

Well I hope your week is starting pretty good.

Laters!

I can't speak for Jophil, but I'll give you UP's ******** translation:

"You should've tongued my a$$ while you had the chance. Now I'm going to d!ck you around and show you how busy and interesting I am!"

Don't sweat it. No failures, only lessons learned. I've been in this spot a few times, and as the others posters said, hot women don't know how to handle rejection. Sometimes it makes them come after you like gangbusters, usually it results in hot/cold games, flaking, etc.

You would be well advised to get after other women, and to remember this cardinal rule: The Ball is in Your Court Once you have Fvcked Her. So strike while the iron is hot, and you won't be kicking yourself and playing cat and mouse games with a female who wanted to screw.

 

[She_feelin_Me]

Man i doubt she will hit you back...One is that a female loves sex as much as us men do...she prob was hoping you take the lead and ask to go somewhere to have sex instead of her looking and sounding like a hoe of ititiating first. My boy did this to a girl I know and she wanted to **** him the first nite they met but he didnt want to because he wanted to prolong it for another 2 or 3 dates down the road...WHY? You have your chance to **** and you dropped the ball...Girls see that **** and see that you just a waste of time, of waste of an evening where she couldve gotten **** somewhere else...Yea its harsh but its true. Next time if you have the green light god dammit go for it and dont think twice because if she cant **** you that night she will some other dude...You picked her uo after 12 anyways, what else was suppose to happen?

 

[seth03]

So if you were me...would you have said "do you want to grab a drink at my place" either (A) after I closed my tab and while we were in the bar, or (B) when we got into my car?

Or would you have just got into the car without saying anything, and started driving to your place as if it was all completely normal, unless she spoke up and said "hey where are you going can you drop me off to my car?"

 

[Gangster Of Love]

So if you were me...would you have said "do you want to grab a drink at my place" either (A) after I closed my tab and while we were in the bar, or (B) when we got into my car?

Or would you have just got into the car without saying anything, and started driving to your place as if it was all completely normal, unless she spoke up and said "hey where are you going can you drop me off to my car?"

You grab her hand, look her in the eye, and ask her, with a mischiveous look, "What time is your curfew?"

Watch her reaction, she should be saying, "What? I have no curfew", then just tell her "Great, let's continue this conversation at my place". or something to lead her. She was already near your car.

 

[vorbis]

I think some of the advice here is being a bit harsh on the OP.
If anything people are buying into the stereotype that a guy is 100% ready for sex any day any time. The guy is allowed have his own preferences as well. Seth03, I'd say she is still up for it. Her message if anything sounded a bit too try hard to impress you. Take her out again next weekend and seal the deal.

 

[vitor]

Just curios why you did not take her home?
Did you not have condoms?
Was your place messy?
Do you live with your parents or something.

Assume the close, when you leave every night you go out to drink or have date assume your going to end up back at your place having a wild time. That means beer or wine in the fridge, a clean apartment(esp a clean bathroom(, condoms close by. Why get her all worked up and not try to close.

next time ABC (always be closing)

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I think some of the advice here is being a bit harsh on the OP.
If anything people are buying into the stereotype that a guy is 100% ready for sex any day any time. The guy is allowed have his own preferences as well. Seth03, I'd say she is still up for it. Her message if anything sounded a bit too try hard to impress you. Take her out again next weekend and seal the deal.

Brother man, a guy is allowed to have his own preferences, I agree with you. I suggest he moves onto other women, there are plenty who preffer to move at his pace than doing the quick, first date thing. Everyone here is responding because he wants to hook up with THIS ONE. Well, for this particular one, we are just pointing out what he wasn't sure about. He dropped the ball when it came to bedding THIS ONE, and even he acknowledges his mistakes.

If he OP wasn't ready at that moment, then he is not what she was looking for, hence, the playing games that has now been initiated by someone who was a sure in just a few days ago.

 

[jophil28]

I can't speak for Jophil, but I'll give you UP's ******** translation:

"You should've tongued my a$$ while you had the chance. Now I'm going to d!ck you around and show you how busy and interesting I am!"

Don't sweat it. No failures, only lessons learned. I've been in this spot a few times, and as the others posters said, hot women don't know how to handle rejection. Sometimes it makes them come after you like gangbusters, usually it results in hot/cold games, flaking, etc.

You would be well advised to get after other women, and to remember this cardinal rule: The Ball is in Your Court Once you have Fvcked Her. So strike while the iron is hot, and you won't be kicking yourself and playing cat and mouse games with a female who wanted to screw.

The best reply and I agree.

Hot woman are used to skating though life with guys salivating behind them. When you reject their pvssy, you flip their beliefs upside down. Then they will either chase you overtly ( rare) or dikk you around to regain control. This is what she is trying to do covertly in the message above. She is reverting to her SOP...vague promises, "hard to get" statements and offers to 'maybe' get together again. SHe is subtley prizing herself, BUT she has a decent level of interest in you.
Know this, if she had no interest in you, she would have wiped you off the face of the earth.
IF you get together with her again expect some mindfuking games and some serious push/pull from her before you get naked.

The way to bust all this BS is to fuk her. Lead her and just do it. After that the frame is all yours again.