"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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First Date Question

Paris1968

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SO - set up the date and going tonight.

Female friend of mine just said something interesting though: says I need to have a plan or at least be aware of this. That if I like her and want to see her again, I should avoid hitting it tonight. And if she does come on strong and want that, it's likely a sign that she's not that into another date and it's one-and-done.

She says men don't play the game the same way women do, and it's a damned shame, cause things'd be so much simpler.

Thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Iceberg

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Paris1968 said:
Thoughts?

Yeah, I have a thought:

Why are you even THINKING about that nonsense? Go on your f**king date and have fun.

...god...seriously? You're worried about the "rules" that some female friend established? She probably read that sh!t in Cosmopolitan. Who cares. Go on your damn date and don't come back until you do.

Christ.
 

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here's another thought. if you want to completely screw the pooch and screw this date up, then take the advice of your woman friend....or ANY woman for that matter when it comes to dating. if you want to hit it off with this girl, have a good time, and want to see her again then listen to YOURSELF and just remember that she's going out with you for a reason. girls don't go on dates with guys they aren't interested in potentially(or at least most don't, there's some weird fools out there). now all you have to do is keep/get her interest in you even higher and go with it.
 

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Iceberg said:
Yeah, I have a thought:

Why are you even THINKING about that nonsense? Go on your f**king date and have fun.

...god...seriously? You're worried about the "rules" that some female friend established? She probably read that sh!t in Cosmopolitan. Who cares. Go on your damn date and don't come back until you do.

Christ.
Listen to this man here.

You know, my female friend says if she bats her eye lashes twice, but once before a sip and once after, it means she's subconsciously horny and wants you, while if she blinks only once, she may just see you as a friend.


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MAN don't believe any of this bullshiz!! Do what feels right! Don't let your female friend be on this date with her...let YOU be on this date with her..YOU attracted her..YOU set this up..now YOU ride the horse and manage the journey son...YOU GOT THIS.

Don't overthink it.

Stop thinking of it ENTIRELY right now.

Say to yourself "Tomorrow is going to be a great fvcking night and I'm going to show her the TIME OF HER LIFE"--she never knew a trivia night could be so enjoyable...THIS should be your attitude, she's lucky to get to spend time with you and you'll do great brotha!! Don't pull a me and get too mentally tripped up son! It just breeds confusion and weird action! Just go with it!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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