"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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First date last night...weird girl.

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Hey guys. Had a first date last night with a HB 9. Went along pretty well, lots of touching, went to our local zoo which is all lit up for Christmas, so it was a good time. Then we went to my house to watch a movie for a little. She didn't seem to have a problem with sitting on my lap, lots of good kino going on, stroking my leg and stuff. But most of the time she looked pretty pissed off, or upset. She was pretty quiet most of the date, and I asked her what she was like and she said "I'm boring." wtf does that mean?! I didn't try to tell her she wasn't I just responded "Maybe you should work on that for your New Years Resolution." She also started talking about how she met some cute guys over the summer, and how they were all so hot. (**** test?) I just responded with "That's cool." and honestly didn't give a ****. Well before I dropped her off we started making out, but I cut the session short saying that "You better get inside I promised your parents you'd be home by 12" (I'm still in High School)

The strange part is she called me up asking me for a date, but when I took her out she looked upset or pissed for some reason. Maybe I'm just being overanalytical. Anyone else ever deal with girls like this? I've gotta say I've never come across a girl like this....maybe it's just her personality? Any takes on this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sir Space

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Dude it sounds like she wants you to make a move. Hit that **** next time man.
 

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Im not an interpreter, but I'll try. Also, I've been dense before when it comes to signs from women. In fact, thats my biggest obstacle. I think they are just being friendly, or mean, only because they want me to do something.

In this case...

She is rubbing your leg.
She called you out.

Pretty high initial Interest Level.

Then she says your boring. Meaning, she wants you to do something. Either dismiss it, "Plllease, you have no idea. I dont think you could handle it." Or do something about it. I.E. make a move.

Then she tells you allthe hot guys shes met. Normally this isnt a good move, but because you are in High school it is a typical High school girls response. What she is telling you is that others really dig her and want her and you should to. But because you are being 'boring' you arent doing anything about it.

this is simply the female way of telling you to do something.
She doesnt want to blatantly tell you.

Then you make out in your car.
Well, there you go.
A make-out session at the end should tell you she likes you and you just need to pick up the physical stuff. maybe not too much, but at least make it exciting.

Dont forget to tease her, and keep it laugh, while also getting physical and making moves sooner.

She is just playing the female game, but it is obvious she wants you to take more charge. And WHEN you do dont be bashful, she basically called you out, so do it.

Anyway, she digs you. dont be a little girl about it, and everything will be fine.
 

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yeah the "cute guy" thing was not necessary a **** test but saying "im not desperate so if you want me, you better make a move otherwise there are cute guys around the corner.
 

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"Then she tells you allthe hot guys shes met. Normally this isnt a good move, but because you are in High school it is a typical High school girls response. What she is telling you is that others really dig her and want her and you should to. But because you are being 'boring' you arent doing anything about it."

No she didn't call me boring, she was referring to herself. My bad I didn't make that clear. I asked her what she was into and she said "Nothing, I'm boring."

Thanks for the advice tho
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i got the "you're boring" tons of times before. typical female response when they want you to land them up the ass inconspicuously :)
 

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dont overanalyze. i'd just take it as a sing that she wants excitment in her life and would move on her.





i dont care wut she is thinking and i dont care.
 

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Well put!

Scought: Well put!:)

cyjay201: Read what Scought said, i dont think i could of put it much better myself. Good "Interpritation";)

Laterz...
 

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Her "pissed off" attitude was just her nervousness, she's obviously into you. Go for it dude.
 

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Thanks for the advice guys. It's obvious to me now she was just nervous, I tend to overanalyze stupid stuff like this a lot. I'm calling her tomorrow to arrange another date.

Cyjay
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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cyjay201

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Thought I'd update you guys on the situation. Turns out I was just overanalyzing things...AGAIN. GOD WHY DO I KEEP DOING THIS!

Anyway she actually phoned me before I phoned her, the first time I wasn't home to pick up my phone, but then she called back two hours later.

Just goes to show me that I need to stop overanalyzing everything and just go with my gut.

Thanks to everyone who contributed to this thread.
 

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Hey, i wont beat the horse but you know you shouldnt do that. But on top of that, heres what you should consider: just because shes ona date with you doesnt mean she cant have other things on her mind. My instinct would be family problems, school stress, etc. So keep cool and remember what your job is; get her mind on the moment and away from whats keeping her thoughts occupied
 
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