"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First date in 3 years.

Sgthaytham

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So I had a date saturday night (first in 3 years) with a girl I met last summer. It was my idea, but she was totally up for it.

We had dinner together and then she asked if I wanted to grab drinks after.

We didnt kiss.

I guess the date made me realise how rusty I am. The start of dinner together was a bit awkward, but gradually we got in rhythm and we laughed a lot, made lots of eye contact, etc...

Later when we were having drinks, I could tell she was loosening up too. She was talking a hell lot and asking me lots of questions.

After drinks, we sort of stood near our cars talking for an hour.

Before I left, she asked if I could send her a text when I get home - which I did.

Since then, she hasnt been in touch.

Should I be worried?

Should I get in touch or let her speak to me?

Was it bad that we didn’t kiss?
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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marmel75

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Dude....

Dont ever ask if you can do something with a woman.

You are a grown man you do whatever the hell you want, not a little 5 year old in kindergarten raising your hand to ask the teacher if you can go to the bathroom.

Not a surprise you haven't heard back from her after that one.
 

Sgthaytham

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Dude....

Dont ever ask if you can do something with a woman.

You are a grown man you do whatever the hell you want, not a little 5 year old in kindergarten raising your hand to ask the teacher if you can go to the bathroom.
You’re absolutely right, it’s just I’ve been out the game for quite some time now, and I’ve lost some composure...

Plus all that, I really fancy her. I just don’t want to come off strong if I text her now... I honestly feel like back when I was a teenager when it comes to dating. I feel useless and clueless.
 

marmel75

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You’re absolutely right, it’s just I’ve been out the game for quite some time now, and I’ve lost some composure...

Plus all that, I really fancy her. I just don’t want to come off strong if I text her now... I honestly feel like back when I was a teenager when it comes to dating. I feel useless and clueless.
Before you do anything else with this woman you need to set up dates with two new woman. And that should be the standard response post date from this point forward.

After every date with a new woman your goal is to set up dates with 2 more women before seeing her again.

If you dont have any women to go on dates with then get to work.
 
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