"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First Date Ideas

Captain Obvious

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I'm thinking about asking this girl out on a date. The problem is, I don't have any good ideas. Yes, I realize there's always dinner and a movie but that's boring. I'm a 20 year old college student, so bars are out of the option.

Also, I don't want to take them to parties. In my opinion, parties are where you MEET people, not where you take dates.

And there are no good dance clubs around. This town really sucks as far as underage entertainment is concerned. This is why I need advice.

The best things I currently have are ice cream and bowling. Anything else?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ace of Flames

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An action date is always the best idea for the first date. You said bowling, and that's not a bad choice at all. Otherwise, think about these:

Batting Cages
Tennis
Pool
Mini-Golf
Amusement Park
Carnival
Zoo
 

WC2

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How about something not so predetermined? I find the best dates are the ones that are done without the thought.

Take her for a walk around the park or something. Tell her last minute you're going into the city (wherever that may be) and you wouldn't mind some company.

Women love dates that are not set in stone. They want to be shown things. They want to be lead. They don't want to go on a date knowing exactly what's going to happen.
 

md3sign

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It's winter. If there's an ice skating rink around and you can hold your own, presto. Really depends on the girl and what your impression of what she might be interested in is, but I find that action dates, especially where you know what you're doing, are GOLD.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lost1

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bowling wasnt mentioned, its my personal favorite! lol
 

mpimpin

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Bowling was mentioned twice already.:moon:
 
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