"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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First Date: Can you beat this?

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BeDJ

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HB 7.5 - 5'9"

Setting up the date was very easy, very receptive to texting and calling.

The First Date:

There I am sitting at the lobby and she walks in. I stand up...HOLY FVCK. She's wearing 4" heels as I look up to her. My mojo. My game. My poor fvcking hamster was having a seizure.

I try to remain calm, thinking to myself I'm the prize. I'm the prize. I'm the prize. Then it turned into I think I can. I think I can. I think I can. It was pathetic. It was like this was my first date in years. Why was I so god damn nervous.

We order our drinks and head toward the lounge area. There was a long couch and a single comfy chair. STUPIDLY, I decide to sit on the chair. I must have lost my mind. She stutter steps as if she didn't know where to sit because she must have thought I was a fvcking retard.

The conversation was mediocre at best. Long moments to silence. Long looks at each others with smiles like two pathetic 12 year olds. Trying not to break eye contact, I crossed the fine line of creeper status. She excuses herself to the restroom. I'm there thinking to myself - Hey, it wouldn't be so bad if she ran straight to her car. 10 minutes pass, holy sh!t, I wouldn't be surprised if she did. She finally comes back. Probably telling her friends to watch out for an Amber Alert. The waitress asks us if we needed anything. I asked her if she wanted another one. 'I'm fine.' Yup, pack it up boys, we're going home. I walk her to my car since she parked 2 blocks away. She bends down to give me a hug, like a mom kissing her little boy to school.

I date rape drug myself and forget everything.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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AAAgent

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Happens to all of us. If you want to follow-up let her know the first date was a fluke and if she wanted to hang out a second time under normal circumstances.

How did you meet her btw?
 

Peaks&Valleys

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It was getting too easy for you....It's nice to see even BDJ can **** it up every once in a while.

IMO you have the top two or three most entertaining field reports on here. Of the ones I've read anyways.
 

Stagger Lee

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I'm 6'1 so it's very rare for a female to be at eye level with me or taller even with heels.

But WTF is up with women over 5'8 wearing 3-4" heels? Every time I see some chicks at the bar that appear to be 6' or taller she's wearing at least 3-4" heels. It's so fuking retarded. A girl 5'9 or so is already as taller or taller than most guys, so she puts on heels that make her taller than 95% of guys.

Women over 5'9 look like Amazon lanky freaks usually anyway. When a girl is taller than me even with heels, I'm not intimidated as they look like freaks to me.
 

Zarky

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If you're not f*cking up at least 10-20% of the time, you're not pushing yourself and not getting any better. This is the mistake I've been making for the past couple of years... dating 5s and 6s, rarely pushing for 7s or 8s. Major f*ckups are what keep the game interesting.

Never forget it, but forgive yourself and move past it emotionally. Carry on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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