Glassguy
Moderator
- Joined
- Apr 25, 2016
- Messages
- 4,663
- Reaction score
- 8,553
- Age
- 46
Never do this. It looks really needy and thirsty.I suggested for her to cancel
I messaged a new chick on FB about a week ago. I wasnt feeling a good vibe from it so I just stopped messaging her (total of maybe 3 messages back and forth each). That was last Tuesday.
Fast forward to Saturday night. She picks the conversation back up and asks me what I was up to and getting into. I told her that I was in Indianapolis all weekend. She says cool, we will have to get into something soon.
I tell her no problem and asked her what she was doing Monday evening, as it is literally my only free evening for the next week and a half. She says that she has to work a long day today but will let me know when she can get free to grab a drink.
My only response was "OK". That was it.
So long story short, you took the shot and went on one date. You asked her back out and things didnt go terribly well. Thats ok.
I dont think these chicks do this consciously, but they somehow subconsciously set men up just to see if the man acts thirsty, needy, desperate or angry. Or does he stay positive, chill and relaxed. Its a shyte test and they dont even realize they do it.
This happens for a reason. A man with options will stay chill and positive as this is not that big of a deal for him. He has other options. He is fine regardless of the outcome.
A man who gets irritated, angry, starts war texting her, etc shows that he knows that he has no other options, gets emotional and therefore, she doesnt want him.
Its a subliminal shyte test if you will. They want to see how you handle a little adversity.
So dont do anything needy, thirsty or weird like asking her to cancel her plans again. Just remain chill. Go to tennis. Say hi to her and treat her like you would a coworker. Be unphased. Thats what women want to see.
When they see that you arent going to chase, they WILL reach back out if they are interested. Dont sabotage yourself in the meantime.